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writes:hi, i am 15 years old and me and this boy we're almost there..i mean we were very close to being boyfriend and girlfriend but we only knew each other for 3 months.One day he told me that he loved me and i asked him how could you love someone that you barely even know and he said " i dont know i like your personality and your not like the other girls" it made me happy and i started to have feelings for this boy.one day he asked me to call him and i did.we talked on the phone for hours and then he told me that he loved me again and i said the same back to him..a month after we still talked and he kept acting like if i was his girlfriend..but the thing is that he never asked me out and i never asked him out..i thought about that one night..that same night he called me and after 3 hours on the phone he said he had to go and i said bye and he said " i love you"i paused for about a good 5 seconds...and i didnt say anything and he said omg i cant believe you dont love me. the next day he was upset..1 week later i realized how much a liked him and wanted to be with him.. but i dont know what to do because now when i tell him i love him he doesnt believe me. what do i do now?
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reader, xoAngiieox +, writes (19 January 2008):
xoAngiieox is verified as being by the original poster of the question omg thnx you guys!!!
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 He sounds like a very serious guy and I don't doubt for a second that he really likes you a lot. He might have felt a little stupid and disappointed when realizing things weren't so clear as he thought about you two and therefor now he is withdrawing a little.
You didn't do anything wrong, you were true and honest with your own feelings when hesitating to tell him you love him back since you are actually not sure about what you do feel, right? It would have been much worse if you had told him you love him only because he expected you to, that would even be dangerous since it would mess with your head and feelings as well as his. He has yet to learn to be patient and give time for the girl to think through what she wants before he rush head forward assuming you have a settled relationship.
Can't you meet up with him and tell him exactly how you feel, that you like him a lot but think you haven't had enough time yet for you to know how you feel about it all (or something like it in your own words)?
Wish you luck!
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reader, AJ jess ^..^  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Hey hunnie i can see how you may be confused, i think that Love at an early age can happen but you need to be with a person for quite a long time and respect them and care for their feelings, if this guy really does love you then he would understand any hesitations you may have and would 'take it in his stride', i went through something like this at your age and it took me a while to really understand if i loved the guy who ive now been with for 3 years, i think that you both need some time together perhaps disucss how you feel, you may find this hard to do but it may benefit you and shows how he really does feel about you x
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reader, Thundermist04167  +, writes (6 January 2008):
He is in too much of a hurry. He is so eager for validation that he won't give you enough time to settle in.
It seems to me that a relationship should start as "just friends." Let "love" develop gradually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): xoAngiieox, we all say things when we are very young that we don't really know the true meaning of. "Love" is one of those words that are used a lot by young people when they really mean "like very much" or "want to get to know better and spend time with". I am not saying that real love is not possible at your age, just that it takes a while to really know why you "love" the other person. A cute face is nice, but cute faces are a dime a dozen..if you understand. Being friends is great, but be careful about using "grownup" language at your age. You have many years to learn more about yourself, men, and love.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 You have done what you have done. If he still doubt about your love and sincerity , it is his problem . If he loves you , he will come around.If he does not, then he becomes history.
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