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writes:Hey guys, I need some advice, or I'm not sure what I need, maybe some clue as to what this means...Alright, so last night, me and my fiance both had bad dreams, a little about us first;We've known one another for four or so years, it's been a online relationship, and everything's been good, this past week I went to see her in person, after seeing her in person, everything ignited and sparked up, I asked her to take my hand to be my wife, she of course, said yes. I'm however back in my home town, we still talk every day and next year we'll be moving in together (excited) - Proceeding on.Last night, we both had very odd and bad dreams...She had a dream that we were at college together and everyone knew we were a couple, then I randomly left her, for no reason... (Bit more vivid in her words, but I'm shortening everything down).I had a dream similar, we were in college and she called me stating she met this guy and was going to stay at his house for the night, also stating he was a better man then I was and she cared for him a lot.Now, I don't typically wake up to bad dreams, as I've read and learned ways to alter dreams slightly to make them not as bad, I however had no luck. I woke up instantly in a cold sweat and tears, she woke up the same, called me and told me about her dream, within seconds of each other waking up, mind you... Anyone know anything? Have any advice, really just anything you can help us with to put our minds at ease, I know bad dreams, or 'nightmares' are 'caused when the heart is lonely or feeling pain for some reason. - I know that... (Or so I read) I just need something more solid, some logic behind it...Thanks...~~Sinclipse.
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reader, Sinclipse +, writes (8 September 2012):
Sinclipse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I think that's made the most sense, in the same way as everything else you guys have been saying, I've spoken with her about it, and she agrees, but she was frightened by the dream to the point of tears and calling me in tears asking me what does she do, I told he of my dream and told her all will be okay when we can see one another - Now we're working even harder to get to one another. :)
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (7 September 2012):
I'm sorry. I had a longer response written, but something appears to have gone wrong.
Most likely, it was a coincidence. After spending an intimate and emotionally charged week together, proposing and having her accept, you parted ways. This could cause both of you to have feelings of loss as you aren't in close proximity anymore. Unconsciously, both of you could have negative dreams about a sort of 'worst case scenario' where the other leaves you.
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reader, Sinclipse +, writes (7 September 2012):
Sinclipse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for both of your replies, what confused me the most, I think is that we hadn't talked much yesterday before we had fallen asleep. I find it just a little weird that we both had similar dreams... A little more behind it; We have just gotten back together after being separated for a while, due to an... Issue, lets say, and through everything, we both tried to hide feelings that we knew we couldn't hide... Once again, thank you both of you for your answers, it does help a little bit, though I'm still wondering why we BOTH had the same type of dream... Two nights previous we both had extremely good dreams, just about the type of dream, it's odd, it feels like there's a strong mental connection that binds us to feel the same as the other person. Probably just timing, but a man can dream, can't he?
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 September 2012):
 Moving in together, and getting married are huge changes in your lives. In that change, there is a subtle fear, because you both want it to work out, and as in all relationships, there is a chance it may not. It's that little bit of fear that you may not be good enough, or that each of you might find someone better that I believe gives reason to the dreams you both had.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 September 2012):
 something you two talked about triggered it...
it's just your brains trying to process stuff...
it's not that your "heart is lonely" or you are in pain....
just "cold feet" kind of stuff... I don't put much power in dreams...
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (7 September 2012):
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