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writes: I have been arguing with my boyfriend recently over silly things and I think this is because we work together and have recently moved in together. It came to a head on Saturday night as we were both drunk and I said things I really didn’t mean. I told him I wanted him out of the house. That night he packed all his things and left. He said that he could not stand the arguing anymore and he wanted to be himself without trying to please me all the time. I wrote him a letter explaining that I love him and I realise that I do go on about things too much and that I was sorry. He sent me an email yesterday about work and in it he put… “I hope you don’t hate me… thank you for the letter, I read it last night.. well have a chat soon I’m sure”. This to me sounds like it is over and that when things have settled down, he might discuss being friends etc. Am I reading too much into this? What does everyone else think? I texted him a bit later and said can we talk and I was very sorry about Saturday and wanted to make it right and didn’t want to loose him… he still has not replied. I don’t know whether to leave things until he contacts me, or whether I need to mission to get him back and call him up?
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (8 February 2007):
 hi there
the piece of response you provided doesnt show any sign of resentment or coldness towards although it doesnt reveal any hint of him wanting you back or rejecting i think you guys still have a chance. i would say wait for him to respond to your last text otherwise you hassle him with a lot of texts or another letters you might scare him away instead of getting him back, if three days goes by and no reply give him a call and patientlty ask him what he thinks about the text and you guys working things out? you can even invite him at lunch break judge for yourself the easiest way you can open up to him but no more text or letter communication. if you are calmly talking to him he will be able to hear how sorry you are from your voice and you will be able to have a conversation without any argumants. speak from your heart and dont let your emotions run wild no matter how irratating this might become for you. take it easy and fight for the man you love. good luck
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reader, Millyella  +, writes (8 February 2007):
 I'm sorry, but it sounds like that ship has sailed. He was just looking for a way out, and he found it in your argument at the weekend. Don't email, call or text him again. If he wants to contact you he will. You've done enough apologising. What happens now is going to be up to him. In the meantime, get on with your life. Stay busy, see friends, go out, have some fun. Start coming to terms with the fact that he probably won't be back. And learn from this; don't save up all your grievances for when you're hopping mad. No good can come of a free-for-all where you let it all out, regardless of how it relates to the discussion at hand.
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