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writes:I sometimes wonder if my g/f is really serious about being with me, or just wants me for sex. I don't have a high sex drive much anymore, been there, done that so it's not my driving force like it was in my 20's. But she's always horny for me and I swear she'd f**k me every night if I wanted it that often. She says she loves me but I worry that it's just some sort of infactuation, or addiction. I think sometimes she'd be just as happy with any guy's c**k but she says no. I catch her watching me sometimes in the early morning hours, when she thinks I'm sleeping and I wonder why she does that? Plus she's a stroker, she likes to touch my skin alot when we're laying in bed and I just don't need that much affection. She says my skin is the smoothest she's ever felt and she can't seem to keep her hands off of me. She's always eyeing me when I take off my clothes, patting me on the butt when she walks by me in the house and sometimes that embarrasses me because I'm not used to all the attention. I think I'm just burned out on relationships. I've been in too many and every woman that some kind of baggage, like jealousy, or partying, or immaturity. This one is too much sex. Other than that, she's a pretty good gal, she takes care of the house, cooks for me, is up for anything I want to do, like rollerblading, or skiing. But I like to be the agressor in bed and so it's hard for me to get in the mood when I know there's no challenge there. I mean the sex is amazing, she definitely knows how to please a man, and she enjoys giving head, which none of my other g/f's were all that fond of, but I also worry that she'll get bored with me because of her high sex drive and because I sometimes push her away when I'm not in the mood. She knows how I feel and I can tell she tries to wait for me to make the move but honestly sometimes I'm just content to have her around without being physical or affectionate with her. So I don't know if I'm the weird one here, or she is. What should I do? I really don't want to lose her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): I think she is crazy about you and you are trying to turn it into some kind of problem. She has a lot of passion for you and that should be a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Are you blind? Haven't you heard the saying actions speak louder than words? This girl adores, idolizes and loves you more than anyone else in the world. She would do anything to keep her man happy and you're still not happy. She fancies the pants off you and wants to be close to you that's why she wants to have sex with you all the time. She probably thinks that you feel the same way, you obviously don't. So I would really think about your actions before you throw a spanner in the works and ruin everything. I'm very tactile and loving, I used to watch my ex sleeping would've have done anything to please him, but guess what it didn't make him happy. He dumped me after four years and broke my heart. I wonder if he's happy now that's he's got a challenge?
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 my friend who is male is in the same situration as u even thou he is 18 he complains that she has sex everytime she is round his house at first i fault well why r u moaning every guy would love that but i guess not. i know she knows about ow u feel but how about talking to her about the other half of the relationship like just sitting in front of the tv watching movies my friend can't seem to watch a whole film with out his gf wanted sex he thinks his bored already. but anyway back to you just talk her about the fact u just don't want sex al the time or always showin afection. good luck to u guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): WELL Mmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
To be totally honest with you, I think you should read your own question, You have something most men would kill for.. You complain about sex ok so its abit much for you but the way you talk about you girlfriend is really disrespectfull, because she likes to make love with you she must just like the c**k... When she touches you and complements you it embarrasses you so she cant show her love for you thats to much as well.. A playfull slap on the arse is to much for you...And when she looks at you lovingly in the mornings while you pretend to be asleep that just takes the biscuit...But on the other hand she is bloody great at cleaning and cooking for you and she does all the activitys you like, and as long as your content to have her around then WHOOPY!!!! Im not suprised you dont want to loose her.... have you thought of employing a houskeeper they come without emotion or baggage unless its a live in one!!!! not to sure how they would feel about the rollerblading n skiing though.... I feel so sorry for her she hasnt got a clue what a complete selfish c**k you are....
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (28 June 2007):
 There has to be some kind of compromise here. I'm pregnant at the moment and am not in to sex ll that much and at times cant stand being hugged so I can kinda see where you are coming from. Me & my guy had a very serious chat back just after I found out I was pregnant. My sex drive had dropped pretty much from when I conceived but I didn't find out until I was 4 months so my guy thought I had just gone off sex.
It did cause arguments but we sat down and talked about it because he'd make a joke about me never wanting sex and it hurt me. I don't see the point in me putting out if I'm not in the mood and am not going to enjoy it which means my partner isn't. He could see my point.
If she really wants to be with you then she may need to back off a little with the affection but you also need to give a bit too :)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (28 June 2007):
 Hi, sweetness!
Well, I wouldn't say either of your are weird. Both of you just have different sex drives - both are normal.
To be honest, I can't see this relationship working itself out. Sex is a pretty big thing that both partners have to be on the level with, and you two definitely are NOT. You'll probably never be able to match her sex drive or her interest, and she's probably not going to be happy slowing it down and not being so forward.
She sounds like a great gal, and I'm sure that many of the guys that read this question will be incredibly jealous of you, but if it's not your flavor, it's not your flavor.
I think you two have reached an impasse, and I think you should end it. I think you can find someone more your speed and be much happier. I think she can find someone who will love her attitude towards sex.
All though I'm usually about working through things, I think this is something that can't - and really shouldn't be compromised at your stage of the game. Your differences are just too extreme. Besides, your question speaks nothing of being in love, which will make a break up that much easier.
She's a great gal and you seem like a sweet guy. Both of you, I'm sure will have no problem bouncing back.
Hope I helped a little bit, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): Honestly you should stop looking for a challenge. Believe me you don't want to be on the other side of this spectrum. Your girl is very rare and the other 90% of women are the opposite so ...If you had this conversation in a bar with your friends they'd all tell you you are crazy.. and then try to steal her!This one's a keeper because she's a giver. Count your blessings and give something back in the form of appreciation! There are a million guys who would want to be in your shoes so stop complaining and go get laid for all of us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007): so ur a guy who has a great girlfriend who looks after the house and really fancies you, tells you its only you she wants enjoys giving you head and wants to have sex with you every night.
you poor thing.
now look at it from her point of view, she loves you to pieces, cooks and cleans and gives you blow jobs and then the poor girl has to beg for affection in bed, she's probuably feeling hurt and rejected and frustrated about this lack of sex.
seriously, you poor thing.
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