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writes:ok, i have a problem. Im totally in love with my boyfriend but i now live away from home (like an hour and a half drive). we were getting on really well but we keep arguing over nothing and he doesnt seem to accept that my uni work is really important to me, we've been together for a year now but recently every thing seems to be going a bit pear shaped..i love him to pieces but i don't want to drag the relationship on if its just guna get us both down..please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 Distance relationships can be very hard and i think that yours is suffering a bit. You need to talk with him and explain how important uni is to you. Maybe you should take a little time out and both get yourselves sorted out. If you are meant to be together you will.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 Love will withstand the sands of time if only it is equal on both sides. When there is less love on one side as opposed to the other then there will be trouble.
That sounds to me like that is what is happening here. You love him loads but he mabe doesn't love you quite as much so he is not willing to put up with quite as much as you are. If I were in his shoes I would try my hardest to deal with the situation. Before I was married my wife and I carried on a relationship while we were over 1200 miles apart. When we finally officially engaged we were married less than a week later. We have now been married 27 years as of the 20th. of this month. So I know if he wants to make it work he certainly has it in his power, especially as willing as you are. Give it some thought. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): You are right to think about this so maturely. You want the best wuality of life as life is short in itself. Why not talk to him about your feelings and see if you can work it out. If not, then sure, take a break and if things rekindle when you get back, so be it. If its meant to be, its meant to be.
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