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writes:hey everyone I really need help,there is this guy in my school, he's soooo cute and adorable, i dont really know him that much i just see him around the hallway and in gym class but not in the same class. he's white and i'm black (weird right), he's an IB student( which means he's soo smart) and i take normal classes ( totally different)but i'm smart too...i have the hugest crush on him, he just turn 16 this year and im gonna be 17 this year (we are so different)...i don't think i have hope of both of us going out and im african he's american...but i have only one last hope, i saw him wearing the college shirt i wanna attend after high school , i hope he goes to the same college too...i can't even imagine myself talking to him only in my dream cuz i'm the lowest self esteem girl you'll ever meet.i don't know what to do, please help thanks in advance, you guys are the best!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 February 2012):
Hi there. Do you think he is interested?
Do you see him looking at you sometimes?
If two people like each other, there will be at least some eye contact between you.
Perhaps you could begin this process.
You could look at him when he's facing in your direction, and see if you can catch his gaze.
Then just hold his gaze long enough for him to notice - perhaps a few seconds. Then look away.
Then a few times during each day when you are passing each other in the hallway or see him in gym class, catch his gaze again and hold it a few seconds, then look away.
If you do this for a few days and weeks, he is at least going to notice you looking, so he will then also know you are interested.
If you don't look at him, he's never going to know you like him, is he?
So you'll have get the ball rolling.
Then over time and it won't take very long, you will see what his reaction is to you.
If he holds your gaze and perhaps smiles, he probably is interested in you also. Even if he doesn't smile at first, that's not a problem. The main thing is that he holds your gaze. That's the critical point.
The one thing to be aware of though, is if he sees you looking, but DOES NOT hold your gaze, or else does, but quickly looks away. That could be a negative sign, especially if he does that every time he sees you looking.
So be aware of the difference and of the expression on his face when he does look at you, when he sees you looking at him.
You both want to be on the same page.
And supposing all goes well and he holds your gaze for a couple of seconds, then one day he might smile - or you cold smile.
Unless he smiles first to you, perhaps it might be better to wait a week or two before deciding to smile at him.
And if it gets to the gaze and a friendly smile, one day after that starts happening, you could actually say - "Hi" to him (and smile as well), in passing.
And he would do the same, probably. Then it's just a matter of time, before you two start up some kind of conversation.
Then it will be easy.
You can talk about anything.
You could say - or he might say - "How's your day been so far?" Something like that, light and friendly. Then it goes from there.
Then you can talk about school subjects, the college sweater he sometimes wears, anything that interests you.
It's simply getting to know each other. It all starts with friendship.
And once the ice is broken and you have started saying "Hi" to each other, it gets much easier after that.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 HI
your never going to know unless you make some kind of a move towards him. I dont think it's at all weird that your Black and his white, its what's inside that counts. i know it will be hard if you have low self esteam BUT why dont you try to strike up a conversation with him, you can start talking about the college shirt he was wearing, and ask will he be attending there, it's a start right? then you will know what sort of vibe you get from him.
Mandy x
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reader, Ayan Ganguly  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 Wow..that's a wonderful love story...hope it ends on a happy note...
Well coming to the point..my dear don't just dream..think what you can do to grab his attention...then execute what you thought and then see how things work out..you may pick up a common topic to start a discussion with him..like the college shirt you saw him in...or you can ask his help regarding your studies since you think that he is intelligent and you are not...my dear that sounds silly...you are unique always keep that in mind...you are best and that's why you are in this world..you deserve to be here don't look down upon yourself...all the best and stop dreaming...
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