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We are 'friends with benefits'...Is that all he sees me as?

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Question - (31 December 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hey all!

Ok this might sound confusing or something but id really like your veiws...

K....... I met this guy on the internet around 5 years ago he's 31 and im 20,and he's what you can call a friend with benefits. We've been sleeping together since then apart from when i started seeing someone and then we didnt see each other and hardly spoke for 2 years.

Since i split from my ex 8 months ago we've met up a few times etc and then after the last time we slept togther he told me he has a g/f but he still wants to meet up. I said ok but it got me thinking.

im not planning on sleeping with him again due to the gf as i wouldnt like it done to me and dont agree with cheating.

What i want to know is does he just think of me as a booty call/uses me? or does he genuinly like me (we get on quite well) and any ideas what i can say next time he wants to meet???

Thanks xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008):

You have a choice so definitely leave him be. I think you've kind of 'been there done that' now ??

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A male reader, attaboybob United States +, writes (1 January 2008):

If youre ok with being FWB, then enjoy.

If youre looking for a commited realtionship, get rid of him.

quite simple actually

JIM

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A female reader, mama2three United States +, writes (31 December 2007):

mama2three agony auntIt sounds like booty call to me. Do you guys ever do anything else besides have sex? If not, then you're definitely just bed buddies, and that can really be a bummer after awhile, because usually someone starts to get connected and they want more from the relationship. I think it's great that you refuse to be his booty call while he has a g/f, at least you have morals unlike some other women. I would discontinue the relationship, it's probably what's best for you, save you a lot of hurt in the long run.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007):

he just wants a friendship with sex without all the strings involving argueing etc. he wants something simple and to keep him feeling young.

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A male reader, Somethingeasy United States +, writes (31 December 2007):

Somethingeasy agony auntYep, sounds like you are being used here. It be best to stay away from this dude. You would definatly be the jump-off in this case. Unless you are okay about being "the other girl"

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A female reader, starfairy United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2007):

starfairy agony auntThe thing with having a F*** buddy is that it always seems to lead to someone wanting more.

Generally if you have had an arangement with someone, you should assume that's all they want, as if they wanted a relationship with you, they would have said.

However feelings do change...But if he only wants you as a F*** buddy, and you ask him deeper questions, you might scare him off. But then you'd have your answer...

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