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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together a year.We have sex fairly regularly, between one to four times a week.His problem is that most of the time he comes to soon. He likes to make sure I have an orgasm everytime we have sex, he's a very generous lover, but it's quite strained at times because I feel I have to come really quickly otherwise he'll come and that's that.I don't particularly mind that he comes really quickly, but he does. He said he's never had this problem before - his last girlfriend he had the problem of not being able to come and said sex went on and on for hours sometimes. He said he's very attracted to me physically and that might not be helping the situation lol.But I feel lacking on my part - I refrain from foreplay for him because I worry it'll just make him come even quicker. We don't always have hours to spend on foreplay/sex, we both work full time and have busy schedules. Most of the time we're happy wioth quickies, but I would appreciate any advice on how to prolong him ejaculating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): I have had ten partners before my present girlfriend. We have been having sex for about two months now and every time I come it happens quickly (1-2 minutes or so). This has never happened to me in my other relationships, and I cannot solve this problem.I can go several times with her (5-8 ejaculations) but I still come just as quickly every time. USUALLY, in my past relationships, by round three I should be able to last for way longer.
Good luck to you, if you figure this out, please let me know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): you could try the condom that numbs your botfriends penis making him last longer , or put a rubber band around the bottom of hie penis so that all the blood rushs too it and makes it hard for longer xx
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reader, mama2three  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 YES, we use it with condoms :) Just to be sure, you may want to check the package that the ointment comes in, but we've never had a problem!
Yes, they do make the condoms too, but they didn't work for us.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (1 January 2008):
 I do believe it can as it is not based with anything that will cause latex to break down.
Trojan even makes a condom that is lubricated with benzocain. I believe they are called "Extended Pleasure Condoms." Check out the link. Enjoy. Doc
http://www.undercovercondoms.com/display-condom.asp?ID=29
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan this ointment be used with condoms?
Thanks for all the answers guys
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reader, mama2three +, writes (31 December 2007):
LOL...been here before, and speaking from experience, it's usually because they are just so excited by you.
We used a desensitizing ointment on my husband for awhile, and it worked wonders, the kind of thing that Dr. John, is talking about. You can find them on the internet, they're not too expensive, and they work :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): you can buy condoms to increase the time. i cannot think of the name but it is durex and a clock is on the cover. 'perfomance' may be it x
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (31 December 2007):
I am not sure of the availability where you are but there are products commercially available that will delay climax for a time and give him more control over it.
You can buy just about any product with 1% to 2% benzocain. It can even be a first aid ointment or cream as long as it's basic ingredient is benzocain. Make sure it is not more than 1% or 2%. If it has more it will start taking away too much sensation.
Applied topically to the penis it will supress sensations enough without removing it completely.
He will still be able to enjoy it without losing control.
If you cannot find something like that locally you can find them online. I have found a link to a website that has one of the available products I am speaking of.
Give it a try. I think you will be pleasantly surprised.
Doc
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reader, xxSABBYxx  +, writes (31 December 2007):
gosh, i supose you can look at it as a compimet cant you??
although if its happening all the time then its possibly a different story, is he too embarrassed to go to see a GP? you may find they might have good answers...
one thing which is good for ejaculating to quick is trying some sex exersises, they can be quite good, it teaches the body how to store excitment and orgasim....
im no pro but just thought i would answer your question to give you a tiny buit of help!!
xx
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