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writes:I am in a great relationship with my boyfriend. We both have the same kind of aspirations and have talked about moving in together/getting married/having children and so on.Thing is, these similar aspirations make me impatient because we're not living together yet and won't be for a time because of money. How can I stop being so distracted by these thoughts? Yeah I look forward to a future with him but I can't keep feeling miserable about how things are now because we aren't at that stage yet.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 September 2012):
 at 26-29 with the issue being funding...are you sure that your upset is not about him "blowing you off" with an excuse.
at 26 I had my second child already...
funding for living together being short at your age sounds like an excuse to me.... and if you feel the way I do maybe that's why you are upset?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 September 2012):
 Just begin to watch yourself having those thoughts. Observe what happens and if there are any triggers.
When you catch yourself having those negative thoughts, stop, count to 10, say to yourself, "here I am, here I am." Sit, become aware of your mind as it is busy having those thoughts.
Ask yourself, "what part of me is upset?" and then watch and observe. You'll begin to be aware that the busy mind with all its drama isn't the fundamental "you" It's a step toward peace and happiness. A small simple step.
Try that for one week and let us know how it goes.
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reader, Read-the-signs +, writes (25 September 2012):
It's about enjoying the journey, not just the destination.
Know one knows what the future holds.
Things are going well NOW. Rejoice and enjoy.
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