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writes:I've been in a relationship for almost two years. There's always been a lot of fighting but it was always my fault. I cheated once and I called an ex boyfriend for comfort when my boyfriend found out. Lately the arguing hasn't been my fault. My boyfriend was very angry when I broke a new phone but I didn't think he had any right to be because he didn't pay for the phone. He was also really angry I left dishes in the sink that night. He later said he was just blowing off steam. He was really mean last week when I woke up feeling sad over a death in my family that happened a year ago. He was not comforting and told me other peoples lives are harder than mine so I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and be more useful around the house. This made me feel really sad, I was crying hysterically and scratching at my skin and my boyfriend said I was acting crazy and I was not normal. Later he complained that he does and says nice stuff but I only focus on the negative things he says about me. It's not fair to me because I would not be angry at him for grieving. I want to leave but I am afraid to do it in person because he won't let me take the dog, even though he would not take proper care of the dog. I know packing up and leaving a note behind is mean and would make him angry enough to harass me at my job but I don't know what else to do. Any advice is appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 May 2013):
 Is the dog his or yours or did you buy it together? Think about that. Crying hysterically and scratching at your skin isn't normal and you should consider seeing somebody about that, a counselor perhaps.
Have you examined your conversations with him? Does he really say nice things and you only concentrate on the negative? Because I've done that before. Other peoples lives are harder, but that doesn't make your feelings/experiences invalid and he should have comforted you or at least gave you a hug.
I would really consider seeing a counselor, you could possibly have underlying things going on that you need to have addressed. I hope this helps you! Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 May 2013):
 well I have to admit, crying hysterically and scratching at your skin, in my house honey that would land you in the psych ward as self harming.
Where are your parents? This is what parents and brothers are for honey, you call them and tell them you want to leave, that you feel unsafe and can they help. IF it's HIS dog (he had before you) then there is not much you can do.
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