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writes: my husband and I had a very bad year and were recovering from our problems until he began his new job where apparently someone is very pushy and he considered having an affair. He is now asking for lots of space in lay mans terms he is going out not telling me where he is going or who he is with and sometimes not even coming home, he got a new mobile phone where he is constantly texting but never telling what or who too that may sound normal to some but we always had a very open relationship with no secrets. Please help me as I am nearly having a nervous breakdown. I really need some suggestions.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (7 January 2006):
 The only mystery behind this man is that he is cheating. He is playing you for a fool, causing you alot of headaches and does not deserve you. I wouldn't waste my time, health and happiness on him. He's just not worth it. Take care of yourself and think about what you need to do to make your life better.
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reader, Zabadack +, writes (7 January 2006):
Ok... you know it's an affair right? I mean you knew this before you wrote your problem? what do you want anyone else to do?
nobody buys a seperate phone to text people all the time when it's "john from the pub" confront the situation say you're not and idiot, in my opinion you should end it. Cheaters don't deserve partners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): I just went through the same thing my relationship with my man was rocky for a while and the same as you I saw a big change he also went out did the text thing and was very distant from me which he was never like that before. I did find out what he was doing and we had a long talk it's so hard cause you love him and like me probaly wouldn't do that to him I would stress to him you won't live like that and if that's the way it is then your walking put your foot down demand answers don't let him turn it around on you cause men tend to take the blame off them selves and put it on the other person. Also I demanded to see his phone if he becomes angry or reluctent then he's doing something he does't want you to know about. believe me I know what your going through but a women's tuition is always right if you have a gut feeling then there is no doubt somethings going on you just have to find out what I pulled the "I know theres someone else just tell me and we'll work it out" card sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't I would try to be as calm as you can getting mad will only push him out the door. Well good luck hang in there !!
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (7 January 2006):
 I don't think that sounds normal at all. You guys really need to sit down and re-evaluate what you both expect from this relationship. If he wants out rather than going out all night and not telling you where he has been he should be fair and tell you he wants a divorce. You need to let him know how you feel, if his behaviour is unacceptable, then tell him. If you guys decide you want to make your marriage work then the openess you once had needs to come back and you should start some serious marriage counseling. Good luck.
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