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writes:me nd my boyfriend have been together for bout 6 months :)anyway, im underage and hes older and we are both virgins so we waitin for my 16th to first "do it" but a couple of days ago..we almost did.. and ever since then hes been really quiet...hes still nice and all that, but he doesnt flirt as much with me and he dont seem as confident as before.have i done something wrong? what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): If this is both your guys first time then it may be that he wants to ensure that you do this the right way and does not want to flirt or touch you too much knowing that you both nearly gave in. In a Twilight sense he may be like Edward and doesn't trust himself to be so close to you as next time he may not be able to pull away especially when you say that you would have quite happily gone all the way right there and then. Like him you will have to be patient with him until he maybe trust himself to be sexually close to you or intimate. Good luck and enjoy your 16th birthday party!!!
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reader, RCK  +, writes (19 January 2010):
If this is both your guys first time then it may be that he wants to ensure that you do this the right way and does not want to flirt or touch you too much knowing that you both nearly gave in. In a Twilight sense he may be like Edward and doesn't trust himself to be so close to you as next time he may not be able to pull away especially when you say that you would have quite happily gone all the way right there and then. Like him you will have to be patient with him until he maybe trust himself to be sexually close to you or intimate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut hes the one who stopped, and he isnt small or anything...hes about 8 inches..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): oh dear. how close were you? maybe he feels insecure about his size, and the fact you stopped it makes him think he is inadequate.. not sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Klc5252: I'm 15 and hes 20..so its not the age gap itself, more the ages. We both know what the consequences are if we go all the way..my parents know about us being together and support us.
Soon567: Actually.. I'm a boy..idk why you thought i was a girl but w.e...I'm willing to go all the way already and we probably would if he wasn't worried, I like the fact that he wants to wait until im legal.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (25 December 2009):
 I agree, he's just trying to make sure there aren't any "close calls." He wants to be law-abiding. He'll relax with time, just don't try to jump him anytime soon!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 December 2009):
He knows he can get into trouble, so he's doing the right thing by just backing away from you a bit. let him do the right thing and have patience.
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reader, klc5252 +, writes (25 December 2009):
lest see your age says 13-15 so what im wondering is how much older is he than you? maybe he feels bad about the age, and if he is a lot older than you it is wrong. not trying to sound like a mommy here but i would seriously think about having sexual relations with this person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): no he is withdrawn because he doesnt trust himself. He realized that he came very close and needs to keep space between you. Dont push this, he is trying to do the right thing by you. Mal
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