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*ariehill1982
writes:me and my ex just split up last nite we agreed were better off as friends. we have 2 daughters he was willing to try but has desided not to as he didnt think it would work but before he left we had sex we just couldnt stop ourselfs and after we sat cuddling, he said it was wrong and it would never happen again but i think theres more to it
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reader, Keria +, writes (25 April 2007):
You can have sex with friends, and that includes ex-partners. Just make sure you draw the line where you want to draw it. If it is over emotionally, then it's over, and make sure you don't forget it. In the mean time, there's nothing wrong with having sex with each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): Ask yourself the reasons why you decided you were better off as friends. Are they fixable? If you think they are then work at it and ask him to as well. Or are they legitimate reasons for breaking up? If it is the latter then you have to break this kind of contact with this man. It will only cause heart ache and problems.
You may wish that someone will give you a good reason to continue this kind of connection with him but we won't.
Hot sex comes from passion and passion can come from strong emotions. The way you and he feels about everything probably fuelled the sex but don't let it be a reason for carrying anything on.
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (24 April 2007):
I suppose that sometimes physical and mental emotions can differ quite dramatically. Perhaps he wants to keep the physical side of things there but feels that the relationship has got too heavy for him to deal with? Either way, I think the main thing to do is try to speak to him, discuss what happened and set clear boundaries for whether such things should happen again and also what you each feel for each other
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): you cant break up with someone and then have that emotional and physical connection with each other again it just doesnt work like that. its very tricky, and if you both decide to stay friends you have to know how to draw the line. One of these days you are going to see him with another women, and his excuse will be, well we have broken up, havent we? one of you or both are going to get hurt with thses games. Make a decision, and stick to it.Unless you want a man with no commitmement and have an open relationship with him. thats your personal choice, but be prepared then to seperate your heart.
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