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writes:I'm married and met a guy few months back at a party and we danced together while drunk.We flirted a little, he gave me compliments and said your husband is lucky man etc.Later that night we hungout with a group of people.I was drunk and asked him in front of his friends if he was gay because I have an attraction for gay guys so that was stupid that i admitted to being attracted to him but anyways it was all harmless, nothing else happened no kissing or anything. We texted a couple of times after that and I agreed to hanging out with a group of people but not alone.Anyway we tried to make plans a couple of times once at a club with some of my friends and once at a show but it didn't work out and we didn't meet again and i dont plan to.I feel like i made a mistake by communicating with this guy again as it could have ended in a wrong way even with my best intentions.I have a great relationship with my husband and told him everything from the begining.He is ok with me going for girls night once in a while and dancing with other guys.I have talked to him about it.He said dont overthink, just forget about it and be careful but it's been two months and every single day i ask my self what was i thinking? i feel like i made myself look like i was trying to hook up with him even though i was NOT. Did i really do something too cheap or am i being too hard on myself? I need to get over this feeling now.what's going on? i have talked to my husband but still cant get over it!!! Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): when we were drunk and dancing he was holding me from the back and had his arms wrapped around my waiste so there was some skin to skin contact but i didn't let him go any further.Was this really wrong of me to let him put his hands on me like that do we all do stupid things when we get drunk?
anyway thanks everyone for the replies, i think i'm feeling more guilty than i should because nothing too bad happened!
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (10 September 2010):
No matter how much you think about it will it bring more clarity. I guess the problem arose when you knew you were attracted to him but you somehow going to lead him on, and indeed there was the possibility of even having an emotional affair. You have to ask yourself if the club plans really did work out, would you have been more attracted to him?
As you can see this thought process only revolves around if's and could have's. It's no sense in working yourself up over it..just be thankful that nothing happened and it stopped. Getting over that feeling is really up to you.
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reader, JamesBM +, writes (10 September 2010):
You're being hard on yourself. Good job you stopped and even told your husband about it, few women do that. Don't feel guilty, but remember to never do that. (The drunk part where it could end to a painful experience.) Cheers and good luck.
-James
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 You are being hard on yourself. You should be proud of the fact that you kept that from escalating into an affair. Simply learn from your mistakes and move on. Nothing happened.
I hope that helps.
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