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30-35,
*ogiebear18
writes:At the beginning of the semester I became good friends with a girl that I met. We hung out for the first couple of weeks and during one drunken night, I told her that I was beginning to develop feeling for her. She has a boyfriend and I told her this knowing that he was very much her boyfriend. After that night I felt that I should not stay as close to her as I had been. It had been about a two months since that night and she began texting me again out of the blue. We talked for about two weeks but really had not hung out all that much. Finally we decided that we should go out together and we went from house party to house party. I was slightly drunk and she was drunk as well but not to the point where she was belligerent or anything. We started the night with about 10 people in our group but at some point we got separated and it was me, the girl I had a crush on and her two friends (a boy and girl that sorta like each other). We were walking along the street and she began to stumble a bit, just as a cop car rounded around the corner. I grabbed her hand to catch her and to make the cop less suspicious. When the cop passed she did not let go of my hand and instead tightened the grip. We walked around for most of the night holding hands and at times where I tried to loosen my grip, she just tightened it. At one point we stopped at a swing set and were swinging. I was facing her and grabbed her seat and was pushing her back and forth. At times I wouldn't push her just as a teasing sort of way. She would just stare back at me. We walked back to her dorm and chilled with her friends in her common area, just us. After some time her friends left and it was just us. I had my head on the back of a chair that she was sitting on and we were talking. At one point we stopped talking. I was just looking off into space and I could tell that she was staring back at me. When I looked back at her she would not break eye contact with me. She would look back at me with a smirk and just sort ask 'huh?'I did this about 5 or 6 times and she would do the same thing every time. She at one point even put her head on my shoulder. It was like 3 o'clock in the morning and her boyfriend was coming to take her to a friend of her's house. He lives like 6 hours away so this guy is committed. She took her time going down to go and we just sorta went our separate ways. I know that I am known for looking into things too much but this has been bugging me for quite some time. Is this just a drunken night or should I try to pursue her some more. P.s. I am not trying to break them up even though I do like her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2012): dont take advantage to a drunkard lady... stay off to her
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): Ask her out again and see. She's not married and you enjoy each others company. Just don't do anything she doesn't ask you to. If her BF meant so much to her she wouldn't be out getting drunk holding hands and playing with you. Do mind if she left him for you? I left my BF for my husband 10 years ago and never regretted it. It wasn't working out anyway. So I say you'll never know til you try.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (12 November 2012):
 I'm sorry but this question is completely irrelevant, she has a boyfriend and there is no way you can change that, so there is no point in pursusing her. End of story.
Find a single girl who you can actually date, rather than chasing someone who is unavailable. You are just wasting your time I'm afraid.
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