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writes:i belong to muslim family i was going to marry afther 3 month with my gf .i did not sex with my gf.i knew her 8 months ago she never told me about her past but before one month she told me she is not virgin becouse she raped.i was mad at her why she lied me that she is virgin......she was hurt bcs of my reaction.....i stoped talk to her but now before one week she called me and told me she was checking me how much i love her?she was checking me becouse she wanted to know i will accepet her even if she is not virgin and she is still virgin........now i dont know really she was checking me or she is not virgin...i dont care about virginity but i wanted to know what is fact......are girls check there lovers by that kind of things????????..pls advice me
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reader, blackberry008 +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Yes, sometimes girls do that.
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reader, type4help  +, writes (20 September 2008):
 she probably told you she was a virgin because she doesn;t like admiting to the fact that she was raped! who would? and when she told you in confidence that she had been raped you make her feel even more bad for lying to you, and you going off on one. you should have comforted her.and make her know that you're there for here..
sounds like some one's got some making up to do.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): If I read this right, she told you she was a virgin before she told you she was raped - which would mean she isn't.
Maybe in her mind she still considers herself to be a virgin because she wasn't a willing participant. Maybe you should have been more sympathetic to her situation and instead of getting mad at her showed some consideration and offered her a shoulder to cry on.
I don't think she's testing you, she just wants to know if you still love her now that she's told you she was raped. You're not really concerned whether she's a virgin or not so I don't really see what your problem is other than she told you a little white lie, and she probably did that because she didn't want to lose you.
However, if she wasn't raped that's a completely different matter and assuming she's still a virgin I cannot see why she would tell you she was a rape victim.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (19 September 2008):
 It's a really odd thing for your girlfriend to do.
If she wasn't a virgin because indeed she was raped, i'd understand her hurt reaction towards you after calling her a liar. It's a hard thing to say.
But to make up that story on top of it, just to see how much you love her? I don't understand. I don't think women check love that way.
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