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writes:In 2010 i dated this guy who i fell head over heals for, we ended up getting engaged and he moved in with me, my mom, my dad and my daughters. well in august just after i had my daughter strange things were goin on, my mom and fiance would act strange around eachother and would talk all the time on fb and hide it from me. one night aug,2010 my fiance told me he was goin to take my mom for a walk around this park near by 2 see if she'd be able to walk it. when they left i say them leave in his car and they were gone for over 2 hours, in the mean time i tried calling my moms cell but it was shut off so i left many voicemail msgs but nvr got a call back. 21/2hrs later when they returned they were acting very odd my fiance didnt say 2 words to me and went up and had a shower before he would touch me. when he came 2 bed he didnt even want 2 touch me like he usually did. I didnt really think to much cuz my mum said she had left her cell in the car so didnt get the msgs and thy were talking bout our wedding plans. Well then late end of august my baby ended up sick in the hospital while i was there with her for the week i usually called home 2 talk with my fiance before bed, one night i called to talk with him and my dad had told me that my fiance and my mom went to rent movies and been gone for bout 5 mins so i said id call em bac. 25mins l8r i had called but they still werent back, 45mins passed and i got a call bk from my fiance. i had asked wat movie they rented he said they didnt get any cuz they didnt have enuff money. the movie store is only 5 mins away. After all these times when they went out together i started thinkin that maybe they were having sex..my fiance would hardly touch me, my mum acted very strange when he was home and theyd always wisper and write to eachother all the time. my fiance also started sleeping on the couch in my living room where my mum always slept. sept 2010 we had broken up as he cheated on me...after then he started saying "if your mom wants any ;) tell her to call me"....then he started saying how my mum kept asking him to have sex with him thts why he left...then he told me that her pussy was good...sum friends say it maybe tru or he could be jus sayin it to make me mad...what should i do??ive asked my mum and she says no but i dont think she will tell me either way cuz ive always said if my bf ever slpt with my fam id leave them all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): confront your mother while your father is present.ask her and also tell her all the times she disappeared with your bf. i think your mother has some secrets with your ex bf and well, you need to find out.Let your father know what your ex bf has been saying. seems as though your ex knows too much about your mother.LoveGirl
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 What you tell us sounds odd, indeed. One would certainly wonder whether they were having sex. The kind of things they claim they did together were not the sort of things they would need to hide from you.
As to your fiancé, if we suppose they didn't have anything going on, it's still good that he broke up with you. If he can say those things about your mother, then I don't see why you would be with him.
As to your mother, I'm afraid you will never get a straight answer from her. But try telling her what your fiancé messaged you. See her reaction. That can give you a clue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): I think something definitely was going on between your mother and your boyfriend, but you will never find out for sure.
You've split up with this guy - who cheated on you ?! - and he's now happy to say vile things about your mother.
Why are you still in contact with this man? If I were you I would put distance between yourself and your boyfriend.
As for your mother ... I don't know what to say. You know her. What does your gut instinct tell you? What about your father? How's your relationship with him?
This is just an awful mess and I'm sorry, but I don't think you'll ever get a satisfactory answer.
Concentrate on enjoying your life and your daughters. Leave these other people to their own horrible mess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Unless your mother is going to own up to whatever it was that was clearly going on between your boyfriend and her then you are never going to know for sure. Personally I would say your instinct is completely correct - it is very strange what has been going on. Also - for your boyfriend to make that comment - it is not something that anyone would naturally say "just to wind you up". He could have claimed to be sleeping with a friend or anyone. I would ask your boyfriend to talk to you about it like an adult - tell him that, irrespective of how he feels about you or the relationship, that you need the truth from him because you deserve the honesty. Try and get as much detail as possible and then confront your mother. Before you do this be prepared to remove yourself from this unhealthy situation if you need to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Have you thought of speaking in private to your father for his opinion? Its not unusual in cases where cheating is concened for people to ask questions of their opposite numbers partner. To see if they felt something was/is wrong too. The fact that in this case its your father, shouldnt put you off asking. Its impossible to tell if there was any cheating going on. But from the way they were both behaving and the comments your ex partner is making now. It would seem theres a possibility and that needs investigating further. Not because of your ex as he is history now. But because you need to know if you can trust your mother!
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