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writes: My fiancee wants to marry me but he wants to wait later rather than sooner. How do I speed the process?
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reader, emmylou +, writes (27 October 2005):
Have you asked yourself why you're in such a hurry to get married instead of placing the blame with him? If you're going to get hitched - hopefully, it's going to be for life - so what's the rush?! It's the biggest decision you're ever going to make, not to mention expensive and potentially very stressful - chill out about it! Come to some sort of compromise - ask how long he wants to wait and why and then meet somewhere in the middle. You both need to agree on this.
But you really need to examine why are you annoyed that he wants to wait? Do you think he'll change his mind? Run off with someone else? Look inside at your own fears and talk to him about them realistically. x
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reader, missbunbury  +, writes (27 October 2005):
 Well, the obvious answer is to talk with your fiance and explain to him why you'd like to bring the wedding forward. It really depends though on what his reasons are for waiting - if he is worried about paying for the wedding itself, then maybe you should suggest that you'd be happy with a smaller party if it meant you could be married sooner. However, if it's simply that he 'isn't ready yet' then you don't want to be pushing him into anything as you may end up driving him away.
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reader, kelsta +, writes (27 October 2005):
The fact that he wants to marry you should be enough, why do you want to speed up the process? The more you push men, the more they run away. You should enjoy the engagement knowing that you have your marriage to look forward to, use the time to prepare for the most exciting day of your lives! kelsta
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