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*lisaVali
writes:Hi, So a few months ago, I was on a party and a guy was there, (he's 1 year younger than me). Then a few days later he added me on Facebook and started chatting with me and asking me questions and stuff, he was very nice but I found it weird and too random. He never talks to me face to face a all and avoids eye contact. About a week ago, he talked to me again and kind of flirted and compliment me and stuff, and I found him a bit cheesy but nice. He also talked to me on other social medias. Does it means that he likes or trying to make a friendship with me? I find him cute but I'm not too attracted to him or anything , how do I react? And if he like ever tried asking me out, should I be embarrassed that he's a bit younger than me? Because my friends think that its too weird for a girl to hang out with a guy younger than her? I'm so confused
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 June 2015):
 I'd say he is either a little shy around you (in person) or a little intimidated by you and that is why he doesn't talk to you outside of social media.
One year is nothing as far as age difference. NOT if you are interested IN him.
Have YOU ever talked to him when you meet him in person? He might simply be too shy to do so, so if you are interested - make the first move.
IF you aren't sure you want to date, or aren't really interested in him, I'd slowly stop talking to him in social media. JUST because he contacted you, and talk to you... doesn't mean YOU have to befriend or date him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 June 2015):
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1. his age is not an issue. One year is NOTHING at this point. my husband is 13 yrs younger than I am
2. he may be shy and inexperienced and that's why he contacts you on social media. for this one based on age I would give him a pass
3. I sense you like him but don't know what to do...
go with the flow....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 June 2015):
 An one year age difference is nothing, not even worth mentioning - I think that your friends are being silly and close minded. Bur, even if it was more... , do you date to please your girlfriends , or to please yourself ?! I understand about peer pressure and all, but at your age it's time to begin consciously shaking it off and owning your choices.
Said that,if you are not attracted to the guy and do not consider him a viable candidate for dating- do not string him along. Do not flirt with him, and if with his cheesy things he exceeds the limits of just friendship, and of good taste - do not hesitate in telling him that you do not feel comfortable letting him romance you , not even as a joke. He'll get yout hint, I suppose.
Yes, if he is flirty and cheesy etc.,- he sees you not just a friend but as an object of attraction, there's no need of being flirty , romentic or cheesy with your PLATONIC friends and most people, even if very young, are perfectly capable ro see the difference and know when they are crossing the line .
The fact, though, that he sees you as an object of attraction is not exactly the same as to say that he wants to DATE you.
I find weird too , that, once the initial ice was broken at that party, and you routinely communicate on social media ,then , if I got it right, when you meet IN PERSON he NEVER talks to you ?...
That's absurd. My first reaction would be to say that this is your typical time waster who is content with a virtual life rather than a real one . Virtual friends, virtual crushes, virtual lovers.... it feels almost like real, and it is so much less difficult and challenging and demanding than engaging for real with " real " people... There are so many guys and girls like that now, and, I am sure it's a generational thing,- but personally I 'd have zero tolerance and zero patience with that.
On the other hand, and seen the young age,- maybe he is just a very shy type- an inexpert, goofy teenager . He is just to shy to approach you in person even if he'd like to... and in this case , I would tell you that you need to encourage him, to smile a lot, to approach him first , maybe to ask him out for a no-pressure coffe or lunch, - this, if you LIKED him, though. But you say you are not even that attracted to him, so , no point in doing that I guess ?
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