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writes:Hi well a couple of weeks ago I met up with this guy he kept pestering me to meet him saying he really liked me and stuff and he kept putting pressure on me to meet him and I don't like that but anyways I agreed to meet him, I met him the one night and I bumped into my friend he said he had seen her around and she said she had seen him too as he knows her cousin.Anyways he kept asking me then if I wanted to meet him the next day in my lunch so I agreed in the end, I didn't want to only because it was only an hour, it was such a short time to try and get to know someone but I thought I will. The next day he was saying he'll meet me somewhere but then he said if me and him didn't "click" could he'd ask my friend out, I was a bit upset by this as he hadn't really given me a chance and I guessed it was the friend we had seen the night before so I said was it this friend but he denied it so I thought ok. We met up and he wanted to go shopping he then asked me why I mentioned my friend when he asked if it was ok for him to ask out my mate if me and him didn't click and I said because you don't know my other friends and he said well I just meant if it was someone who was your mate and I asked her for a date and we got together. I was confused because I thought well no that doesn't make sense. He then wanted to take me to a shop to show me a girl he got off with because it reminded him of his ex, I wasn't willing to go because I thought it's a bit unfair. After we met he asked if I thought we clicked and I said I dunno to be honest you seemed like you couldn't wait to get rid of me at the end and he said ok well I don't think we did so can I ask your mate out the one from last night? I was right all along! and he denied it!I was really upset because I felt like such an idiot but then I think was this actually my fault? Did I do something? I would really appreciate your help on this matter, sorry it's so long... oh yeah and after he told me he did like me but we never clicked and he wanted to take things slow and now he's never spoken to me since.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi i want to thank you all whom responded and helped me really appreciate it :)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 March 2009):
 This guy sounds like a complete idiot that is just desperate for a girlfriend or some female attention. You had a lucky escape from him; he sounds like bad news.
For a guy to be so pushy about a date in the first place, and then not give the time it needs to get to know you before he starts chasing your friend - he is a complete jerk (there are many other words to describe him but I wont be rude!).
You did absolutely nothing wrong here, it is the guy who is in the wrong. he will soon find out he cannot go around treating women like this because he will end up alone, and girls will run a mile from him. Dont worry about him or what you did/didnt do. It doesnt sound like you liked him that much anyway, so dont even waste your time thinking about him.
Try and find a nice guy who wants to spend time getting to know you, not showing you some girl he got off with that looks like his ex! That guy is a complete weirdo and he wont have any luck with women if he carries on like that, he will end up alone and you will find a nice sweet guy and be happy!
I hope this helps!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 March 2009):
 This guy used you to get to your friend, simple! No, it wasn't your fault at all but don't ever let him use you like this again. He doesn't even deserve your friendship. Remember what he's done and steer well clear of him in the future. That was a dirty trick he pulled on you.
~Eve~
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 March 2009):
Sweetheart why do you have such low self esteem????
You didn't even LIKE this guy, yet you didn't have the courage to tell him to bugger off and went out with him... Purely it seems because he was a pushy psycho about it.
Then when he started acting like a pushy psycho about your friend, you feel rejected??????
You've had a lucky escape! Any man who takes you to see a girl he kissed because he looks like his ex OBVIOUSLY has problems. That is just NOT NORMAL in normal life, LET ALONE ON A DATE!!!!
How is this guy in any way someone you wanted to spend ANY time around? He sounds like a slime ball and has given me a bad feeling just reading about him.
Tell your friend that he is after her and is pushy but tell her what a nut case he is so she can be a bit braver than you and tell him NO I don't want to meet you.
Good Luck!! xx
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