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writes:I have a problem with my partner. Firstly... when I tell him something its almost like he doesn't care or doesn't understand and in many cases blows it off... But when someone else tells him EXACTLY the same thing then he believes???? I don't lie to him so I don't understand why he takes things seriously when its told to him by another person. What does this mean? It makes me soooo angry! And its really hurtful! Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2014): I disagree with the first response. I do not think this is a characteristic of most men. My first boyfriend was like this, and I noticed that he listened only to men. I would tell him something, he would tell me that was the dumbest thing he'd ever heard, and a short while later, one of his male friends would tell him the exact same thing and he acted like they were geniuses. I noticed he treated his mother this way as well.
See if you notice any similar pattern. Whether you do or not, reevaluate the relationship. It sounds like he doesn't respect you. If this is the only problem, maybe just talk to him, but if this is bothering you so much, you should reexamine the relationship and ask yourself if you could do better.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (1 August 2014):
 Your partner is like most men OP!You've described the average man perfectly and while its extremely infuriating and you feel like screaming your lungs out, unfortunately that's all you and the rest of us can do!My boyfriend too is similar in many ways. When I mentioned that a particular highly rated restaurant (X) was actually shitty and the small place next to it was miles better, he just dismissed it and behaved like he hadn't even heard. Then yesterday he comes back from work and tells me, "you know my friend from work, Bob? He was telling me that restaurant X is actually terrible, he hated it too. But there's this tiny place next to it and he says that they serve the best Chinese in town. We must go there sometime".It irritated me NO END when I heard this, because it didn't mean anything when I said it but when Bob says it, well, its etched in stone, because Bob or Tom or someone else has said it!I dont think he meant to be hurtful and similarly I don't think your partner means to be hurtful; its just that that's the way they are and that's the way most people are. They always seem to undermine what people close to them say but when strangers or friends say it, it suddenly seems to acquire a whole new light and meaning. Sad yet true.
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