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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months - he is 41 and I am 34. I've been having concerns recently that he might not want the same things out of life as me, and I needed to be sure that he wants the same things as I do. I told him that I wanted to have a family, that it was really important to me. I said that if he didn't want to have a family, then I would have no choice but to end the relationship. I meant to say it in a nice way, not to make him angry, but it came out much mroe forceful than I wanted it to. He said he would give it some thought and let me know.The thing is, I was with my ex for 4 years and at the end (before we broke up) he told me he never wanted children as he already had 2 grown up kids, and I feel as if I wasted so much time with someone who led me on about what they wanted. So you see I just want to be sure that Steve wants the same things out of life - btu now I think I may have been wrong to issue him with an ultimatum. I feel terrible and pretty vulnerable too - did I do the wrong thing? xx
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (2 April 2009):
I don't think u are wrong.I'm 24 and I told my boyfriend in the next two years we need to make a move and if he wanted to...just to make sure because we been together since 19 and I didn't want kids before now I want one he said two but once I lose my body I'm not sure about doing ut again. But I think u are right because its not far for anybody to hold u back from having childern by making u think one day and waist ur time. So if he's not ready move on kids are more important
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