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writes: I got married after month of knowing my husband and it was the second marriage for both of us, I took him for granted I was trying to make use of him, and push him to make my all old dreams come true, i treat him very bad, and some accident happend to my kids , so i was busy with them , and i was having thoughts that i can go back to my old husband so we can take care of the kids toghether, so i was treating my new husband to push him out, and suddenly he diceded to get a divorce , I walked up and face my mistakes , and we only spend together two months, i said i was sorry , i beg him to give another chance,i really recognize my mistakes, i send him letter to apologize, i sit and talk to him, he is hurt so much, i can do any thing to keep him, he insists to get divorce, and i want to do any thing to keep him, give me advice please what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): My dear sister. wow, where do i start? what does he like to do? do as much of it with him as possible. show him that u are committed to him and are interested in making this work. it's not easy to go into a 2nd marriage without counsellings for all parties involved. but now that u are in it, the best way to make it work is to go couples counsellings together. or, u could read this book "husband for sale by owner" it shows what a women had to go through to keep her husband. This book will definitely help u. it's like counsellings only in the privacy of ur home. but, again try to get both of u out to counsellings too. in addition to telling him u are sorry, u must show him. try taking him to all the places where u all fell in love, and then talk to him there. look into his eyes and let me see ur heart. show him u are sincere or else ur marriage will crumble before ur eyes. TemiO
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (13 March 2007):
He is very hurt that you wanted to run back to the father of your children (because of the relationship that you had together) after being so demanding of him during a stressful time. Because you married after only knowing each other for such a short time - one month - he is feeling threatened by the closeness of your previous relationship and you really did not give him a chance (when kids are sick or hurt, we put them first). The only thing you can do is apologize REPEATEDLY and make sure he knows that you are sincere. Ask him to go to couples coucelling and have one booked up in advance, so you can bring him the appointment date to show your intention of trying to make this marriage work. Good Luck Honey.
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