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writes:So I've been dating someone for a while who treated me so well he was incredible. It felt like we were falling in love I noticed very positive changes in him. But then IMMEDIATELY after, he switched up. He started treating me so different I've been suspecting he's seeing someone else. (All the signs are there) and we barely speak. And when we do, it's brief and a rush to get off the phone. I was patient at first, I did my own thing and just let days go by without hearing from him, I played it off like it didn't bother me I assumed he wanted space. But it became worse. I tried being patient so I could talk to him about it but again, it became more diffict to.reach him. I couldn't take it and sent him a text. I said "I notice you've been treating me different and I feel like you're seeing someone else. If you are, that's cool do what makes you happy, but don't do it on my time. " We have neeever gotten into any argument or drama. He has not responded and I'm not even sure if he will. I'm 24 and he is 28. Was my text reasonably said? I'm so devastated over this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did try calling him but it was impossible to talk with him always rushing to get off the phone. But it was just confusing when he would call me back. He wouldn't ignore me or anything, he'd just be brief. I felt I had no.choice but to text.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 January 2012):
 I agree with two things
1. the relationship is over (and he was too chicken or childish to let you know)
2. you should have CALLED him to discuss this. IMPORTANT things and RELATIONSHIP issues should NOT be done via texting
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Hello,
Yes, i get the feeling he was doing the old pulling away routine and trying to get you to dump him. I appreciate that I don't actually "know" what was going on myself, but sometimes there is no other person involved. People sometimes use people for things and then don't know how to finish things. Therefore, they hide away and do the cowards route of just trying to get you to do all the working things out. I would say let things go now and remember that you acted correctly in all of this. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): Why don't you call him instead of sending him a text message? You're more likely to get a response.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 The guys behavior after the relationship was official is shadier than a fat guy standing over an nyc hot dog stand. A def red flag.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): Yes, you were right to send the text because now you have an answer for yourself and not in limbo any longer. You confirmed he was no longer interested in you and now you are free to move on and not waste anymore time in agony wondering where you stand.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 January 2012):
 The fact that he didn't reply is your answer, he isn't DENYING the accusation.
Delete him number and forget about him, he's a loser and he just LOST you.
I'm thinking he was giving you the brush off, to make you the "dumper".
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