A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Now this question sounds weird but it's a issue for me. Do I come across as pervy or a flirty type?Ok well basically, I'm in my teens, never had a girl fiend always act poite and friendly as well as always treat ladies with utmost respect (how men should be). Don't act pervy/inappropriately etc.Recently I was on a trip with school mates and we we're in 'home cloths'. I came in my dress stlye (I wear a more elegant style like pin stripe suit, shirt, tie etc, clean/sinny shoes). For most teenagers that is very different style to othes, immediatley I ahd mixed reactions from friends/colleagues.Some female colleagues we're like 'wow, you look nice', then other male colleages were like 'spif' and 'pimp', 'smooth guy' etc. I feel that my characterisits and dress since are making people think that I'm trying to be some show off, pretend gangster etc.I just like to be friendly and I like those style of clothes. I feel it's good to be different, I thought people prefer people to be different.Would you think I was trying to be a 'pimp' or 'spif'by the way I have described myself?I hate it, people deserve respect especially women, what's wrong with giving them some for once, why do these guys be weird?Should I drop my dress sense?I would appreciate your views because I don't want to be seen as an idiot.Thanks
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reader, nologo  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Now this question sounds to me like a made up.
Such situation may occur, but not the attitude.
This text appears to be written from a female point of view.
Do you really expect a male-oriented advice to this question?
Anyway, if I am wrong here, please skip the sentences above.
Follow your own ways until the Truth becomes evident to you.
If that is not what you want - sorry, but it comes to mind.
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female
reader, whiskey_cowgirl  +, writes (30 May 2007):
by the way you described yourself, no, it does not sound like you are trying to be a pimp... you sound very charming, more guys should be like you =)
there is nothing wrong with being different, but a suit and tie might be over doing it just a tad... there are ways to still dress "cool" (for lack of a better word) in the other guys eyes and still appear well kept and clean. that is not to say you should never wear a suit again... just my opinion though.
if you are comfortable with the way you dress, then just do it! don't listen to what others say. life is too short to live it to please others...
best of luck, whiskey
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reader, candy00s +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Dont change the way you dress just because someone else doesnt like it.
I actually think the guys who were saying 'pimp' etc were jealous - you walked in confident and girls were complimenting you on looking so smart.
Its nice that you have respect for women, ignore these catty comments and have the confidence to be different.
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