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writes:Hi everyone, I need some boyfriend advise. Well Today is my boyfriend's Nieces B-day, a few days ago we talked about carpooling to her party together. Well Last night he said that he was leaving to go to her house right from work. Well I didnt understand how we could carpool together if he was leaving right from work and he has his car as I have mine. Well I told him that I thought that it was pointless for us to go to the same places in seperate cars, waste gas and then drive home to our apartment following eachother, so I told him that he could just leave from work and I would just go home. Now we both work on the same street a few miles from eachother but he wanted to go to work later so that is why we didnt car pool to work. He said that I was being selfish by wanting to save gas and then he said that he didnt want me to go anymore, I said I wanted to go and then said I will just follow him, eventhough I thought it was stupid to do that. He said fine but he wont talk to me there or hang out with me. Now he is really pi**ed off at me for something that is not a big deal and he has been really rude to me all day. Like he has been seriously mean to me. So anyways, I just need to know "Was I wrong to say that I would just stay home, and should I just follow him there, or is he being a big unreasonable baby and doing wrong by being really mean to me? thanks guys. I am sorry that this is so long and I hope the entire scenario is understandable. I tried to make a long story short. Reply to this Question
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 I'd so he's being unreasonable.
Since carpooling is something you both talked about a few days prior, it seems only reasonable that he sticks to that plan. After all, why shouldn't you attend that party since you are with him?
I agree with you. It seemed pointless to take 2 cars to the party, when you could both quite easilly have travelled together. Also, he seems very immature to act the way he did, and then continue to act that way. I can understand sometimes that people act this way. I know I myself could get into a disagreement with my former partner and not be able to get out of my mood for atleast 30 minutes. It's not something I'm proud of, but that's still something that can happen. People sometimes struggle to get out of their moods. However, it seems very unfair that he should remain this way for as long as he has.
Like flower girl said, how is he going to act if something serious should happen? I suggest that you make that point when you talk to him about it. The conversation could lead to something more serious taking place, and it's a shame something so petty was allowed to become so big. Hopefully early on in that conversation he will accept that he was wrong to treat you how he did and apologize. If he doesn't, I'm not sure what that means for you both.
Best of luck with it!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (28 July 2007):
 He has so blown this out of all proportion, so whats he going to be like if it's something serious?.
It's up to you what you do but i certainly would not want to stay with someone that reacts in this way.
Take care.xx.
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