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writes:I contacted my ex boyfriend who recently had a terrible breakup with his girlfriend who he had after me. He broke up with me because of her and they were togetehr for about 7 months. I have always wanted to get back together with him - we were together for three years before he broke up with me; we never had arguments, we were in a good relationship before he met her.Anyway, I contacted him while he was really sad and depressed, and hung out and slept together a few times. I asked him to get back together with me but he did not say anything while just listening to me. So I thought maybe he was considering coming back to me and all we need is some time to move slow. He never contacted me first, but whenever I did, he did not refuse me either. Anyway, after two months later of their breakup, his ex girlfriend started contacting him and after that he stopped having sex with me although still talk to me if I call. They are dating now and I am really worried if this means that he is going back together with her and I am just a rebound girl to him.Was I just his rebound girl?MOD NOTE: Question added by moderator.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I don't know what you were except an ex lover that he could easily get to sleep with him and comfort him.
He sounds like a twenty something guy that doesn't really want to commit to anyone. He is just having fun and dating a series of women, I don't imagine he is even very faithful if the opportunity presented itself, he would sleep with any attractive girl he wanted.
I wouldn't think their relationship will last either, but if you keep bouncing back and forth between his flings, what is that going to do for you other than make you feel badly and waste your emotional energy.
I say kick him to the curb and move on.
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reader, Imayknow1980  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 It sounds like this guy knew you still harboured feelings for him and he took advantage of that.
It sounds like he kept his options open by not making any commitment to you while you were sleeping together. I don't doubt that he would like you as a friend as he came to you when he broke up with his girlfriend, you were a comfort too him when he was feeling low. Its alot easier to sleep with an ex than a stranger and thats probably why you both fell back into that so easily. He obviously has deep feelings for this woman as he went back to her in a drop of a hat. You need to get final closure on this guy so that you can move forward with your life and meet someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them. The past is the past for a reason xx
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reader, lah mouw +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Yeah, it sound like you were a rebound. One thing you don't want to do is sleep with someone who JUST got of a relationship. It would probably be best if you just gave him his space and you also have your space. And, the best thing for you to do relationship wise is to just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): Sad but true, I think you are a rebound girl. Just stop seeing him and move on with you life.
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