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anonymous
writes:I really need some help i was with my ex for almsot 2 years. I end it last night because hes always emotionaly and verbly abuse me. And i really did love him but i was tired of him hurting me he'll be good for awhile and try and change but it always goes back. we were on a break at the time than i just ended it with support from 2 bestfriends.It was really hard. I had 50 missed calls from him and was begging for me back. But than i would remaber how much he has hurt me and so i stayed strong but he was saying some scary stuff like if i left him he cant live. So now im worried do you think he was just saying that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): My ex did that to me too and i believed him so i ran to his after him saying he was going to kill himelf to find him haveing a night in with the boys. i was relieved he was ok but mad as hell that he did that.
my advice run for the hills. he is doing it to try and get you back and make you feel bad for doing something that is right and the best thing for you.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (29 June 2011):
 This is called emotional blackmail, it is part of the emotional abuse that you have suffered from him. In 99% of the cases where someone threatens to kill themselves when a partner leaves them, they never go through with it so try not to worry.
I suggest you contact his parents and tell them what he has been threatening, so just in case they can keep an eye on him and make sure he is ok. He is not your responsiblity, and chances are these are idle threats in order to make you feel guilty, but just in case maybe you should tell his parents.
Chances are he is just saying this to make you feel guilty for leaving him, so you come back to him because you are scared for his safety. I'm pretty sure he would not do anything silly, he is only saying this and he wont follow through.
Stay strong and dont give in to him - I also suggest you call your cell phone service provider and have them block his number so he cant call you, having 50 calls in a day is not nice for anyone, especially if he is making these kinds of threats.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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