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writes:I have been married a long 29 years. We certainly have had our down time. Having one now. Background includes some physical abuse that he will not admit to. He now stays in his room in bed all day everyday we are not at work. I have arranged marriage counseling on 4+ times but he refuses to admit he is ever wrong about anything. He put us into finacial ruins many years ago by commiting a crime. He has always put me down. I have had bouts with anorexia and major depression. I in turn had affair. From the affair I felt better about myself and was happy. then I got caught. we did not divorce. I could not afford it. I really am now at that crossroad again. Can't wait to return to work for the holiday break. I have gone to private counselors also. they were jerks. He never sleeps with me and I am very attractive. all genetics. Both of my parents died in 2007. He would not come to help me in their home until afterwards when money was involved. I do not feel loved or respected. I am sad when I am at home. also just recently lost my 2 dogs. One of which he claimed was the reason he did not sleep with me. New reason now is that the bed is too hard. Help
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 January 2010):
I think it's now time to move on. You've been a saint, and you deserve to win the lottery to be honest. Make plans and please get away from this man as quickly as you can.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 January 2010):
I think if you've tried counselling and you've stuck around till now then it's time to consider leaving. I know you say you can't afford a divorce but you can separate.
Extract yourself.
Get your bank accounts in order and find a place to go.
Leave and then sort it all out once you have gone.
Good Luck!! xx
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