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writes: Hi, everyone,Last night I atteneded prom with a good friend of mine. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months only a week ago. I love my ex so very much. I like my prom date as a potential boyfriend. All that being said, I'm not yet over my ex. My friend knows that. Were attracted to each other, and he knows that too. Last night after the prom we discussed the possibility of getting together. I feel as though I want to get with him, but I'm not over my ex, so that wouldn't be fair. Being with a new guy could help me get over my ex, but that would be using him. But it wouldn't be using him because I genuinely like him. I still cry for my ex though. Even though I love my ex dearly still and I hope to get back together with him, I want to move on.What do I do? Whenever I do something decisive I secondguess myself.Is there a right and wrong course of action, here?Please help me I need some kind of... Decisive help. Thanks-GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionO, you should also know that my ex broke up with me because he didn't have time for us to be together. He says he no longer loves me because since our breakup I distanced myself from him and then decided to go to prom with my friend that I had a mini-crush on 2 days after our breakup.
I don't believe love can really go away this fast, can it? Were high schoolers, but... We really were in love.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (17 May 2009):
Your right your not over your ex but when will the time be right? Maybe this could be exactally what you need, youve been fair in how youve been and youve sat and talked with the potential guy so youve started the first few steps i feel that you need to go with this one to find yourself again. You dont need a full on relationship why not say to him lets see how we go? You need to see whats out there in order to move on, you cant live in the past forever and everyone needs that letting go stage where they find themselves again. If you actually like this guy then dont let him go due to the past. Things happen that you have no control over but this is a time where you can regain you again if you grab it in time.
Your ex is your ex for a reason and its obviously something you cant overcome as your still apart so use this as a sign, dont live in hope for what could be you let all the good ones pass you by dont watch your happiness fade whilstliving for the what ifs.
Take the plunge, find yourself and start enjoying the what could bes.
The only thing you could do wrong here is not to do anything, you need to move forward and find a future you wont do that any time soon unless you start to take action and only you can, i suggest you go for it and start enjoying it. i really hope everything works out for you, x
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