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writes:I am a 35 year-old virgin. My 40 year-old husband has an erectile dysfunction which is preventing us from consummating our marriage. We've been married since one year, and are together since 4 years. We love each other, and are able to enjoy intimacy in every way but intercourse. My husband is seeing a urologist who prescribed for him an injection (edex). We tried it in different doses but things haven't worked out so far. My question is: could my virginity be contributing to his ED problem? (he has an erection, but he loses it when we try to have intercourse). Could the erections he's having be good to have intercourse with a non-virgin but not enough to have intercourse with a virgin?
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reader, BigSambo +, writes (4 January 2011):
Sorry to hear about your problem, it must be frustrating for both of you.
The only thing I can suggest is try different positions .. It could be that he is not comfortable with one position and it is not working out. Doggiestyle always works better, lol.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 There is no special erection needed to have intercourse with a virgin. Any erection will do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): It is probably tense for both of you, because you may be afraid, and he may be nervous because of that, but really the medical route sounds your best bet. You do need to talk about it together. Maybe settle for the way things are for a time. It takes a long time too for couples to get used to each other, and you are both a bit older so that would be even more so.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 No it should be nothing to do with your virginity at the end of the day you are tighter down below therefore this should only add to the pleasure not take away from it, therefore his problems have nothing to do with you. It sounds to me like he can get an erection but he gets nervous before intercourse and loses it this could be due to many reasons. Maybe he feels pressure on living up to your expectations because you are a virgin. Talk to him about it and ask him how he feels. Goodluck.
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