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writes:Hey,I'm a girl, I'm 17 and 4 months and I'm still a virgin (worryingly).Is this really old? In the past when it's come to the stage of ''we're drunk, lets have sex'' i've always ran away from the scene. But now i don't know if i should have seized the chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): 19 is the average age to lose virginity.
I can see you have felt the affects of peer pressure but am glad you have kept it. You should mature up and realise its your body and you give it to who you choose at your pace not others. Drunk meaningless sex is crap and doesn't last long. You should wait for special person that you will enjoy with, last long, and think is worthy of your virginity.
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reader, whiteelephant  +, writes (13 October 2010):
just a tip: don't have your first time drunk. maybe like A drink since that wont do anything
and the right time to lose your virginity is when you find a guy who you want to f@#%. seriously. not before, not after, right then and there. don't dilute passion with wondering if you should or not
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (12 October 2010):
It´s a sad thing that with your age you feel too old to be a virgin. Don´t let all those tall stories by your classmates intimidate you. When I was in highschool a couple of years ago, the girl who was the loudest participant during conversations about sex turned out to be a virgin herself.
I on the other hand have never made a secret of it. I don´t give a damn about what other people think of me. Sure, some are surprised, some made fun of me, but I´ve also had classmates come up to me and say "I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't want to lose it 'just because'."
If you're not ready, don't do it. Don't get drunk and do it with some guy to fit in because you will regret it. Besides, if you do it with just the first lowlife you come across, what does THAT say about YOU? Why not wait until you meet someone you'd LIKE to give it to?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): hii...i've got less than a month left before i turn 19, and i'm still a virgin. and i'm PROUD that i'm still a virgin. a lot of my friends have swiped their v-cards, and most of them regret it pretty strongly. seventeen is still veryy young as far as matters such as sex go. if you're anything like me, you're still busy trying to figure out who you are and who you're going to be. do you really need sex and all of its emotional baggage to further complicate things?there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. especially when you're only seventeen. kudos to you on all of the times you "ran away from the scene." i'm sure that there will be plenty more chances for sexual encounters for you. just wait for the one that is going to be as special and amazing as you deserve it to be. ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): No its really not old.
I lost mine when I was 18 and I still wish I had waited to do it with someone I cared about and who made it special.
I can't even remember the name of the guy who I did it with, I was drunk at a friends party and angry.
Don't make the same mistake! You deserve a nice hotel room with candles, champagne and room service :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Im 25 and still have my V plates, until this weekend anyway which Ive had something planned. At your age, this is oh so young and when you drink you regret because one is incapacitated and thus incapable of making an informed decision and knowing its possible consequences. Stay away from the booze and party scene and you will stop feeling pressure. Find the right guy...for me i construed that as emotionally, now its all about logic. Wait for the person that is mentally right for you to be with and at 17 this is still young so you should give it a huge chance. Good luck :)
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reader, daletom +, writes (12 October 2010):
This question, or something very similar, gets asked every few weeks around here. There's some interesting statistical information in the thread "What age do most people lose their virginity?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-age-do-most-people-lose-their-virginity.html .
Rather than getting you down, being a virgin should remind you that you have the integrity to keep your personal standards and live up to your convictions.
Take a look at the question "Guys, would you be reluctant to marry a virgin?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/guys-would-you-be-reluctant-to-marry-a.html . Also the thread "Is it weird to be a virgin at 24?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-weird-to-be-a-virgin-at.html .
And when you DO get to the point where you're ready for a sexual relationship with a guy, MAKE SURE he knows that you're a virgin, and some of the reasons why. See the thread "Want to have sex, but don't want to tell him I'm a virgin!" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/want-to-have-sex-but-dont-want-to.html .
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reader, Odds +, writes (12 October 2010):
 17 is not too old - if anything, it's just barely old enough for committed sex, and not yet old enough for the hookup scene.
If you want ot hit the drinking and hooking up scene, you can easily start whenever you like, now or later.
If, however, you want to avoid that (which is what it sounds like if you avoided it), then don't just give it up over anxiety. The fewer men there are in your past, and the more you make any given man earn the privilege of dating you, the more the men will value you, and the higher quality they will be.
Short term or long, it's your choice, but don't feel bad about yourself as you are now.
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reader, TruckerChic +, writes (12 October 2010):
You have nothing to be worried about with be a 17yo virgin. I'm 26 and still a virgin so you still have plenty of time to find the right guy to have you first experience with. You will always hear that everyone who has waited has been so grateful that they did and the ones who didn't wait or rushed it mostly regreted it. Make the right choice for you not for someone else and you will have a good experience when it happens.
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reader, thatonegirl11 +, writes (12 October 2010):
 It's more common than you think to be a virgin at 17- and it's a GOOD thing. Followtheblackrabbit is right, find a worthy man and wait for the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): there is nothing wrong with being 17 and a virgin...stay a virgin as long as you can b/c when you meet the right person for you, you will be so glad you waited..i lost my virginity when i was 23 and honestly i am so glad i waited b/c im now engaged to this person and can't imagine being with anyone else prior to him..trust that you are worth it and dont feel pressured by anybody to lose something that special..on a another note i am in the health care field and believe me when i see the different kinds of STD's walk through my door it's a wonder that anybody still wants to have sex anymore b/c its scary. Use protection and wait for the right person...good luck!
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Honey, you're fine! It's great that you're still a virgin at seventeen and it's even better that your first sexual experience wasn't through drunken sex...that's eeww. Think about it, the guy would reek of alcohol, stumble through everthing, maybe burb a few times in your face and get your name wrong :/ He wouldn't know what he'd be doing and probably wouldn't care. From what I hear, drunken sex sucks! You would barely remember it the next day-except for the pain. Being a virgin, you need a caring, attentive lover. A drunk man would probably hurt you and it wouldn't be all that nice or romantic...Please, be patient. Lose your virginity to a sober man you adore and who adores you. There's no rush!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Sweetie, that's not old at all! I was 17 and 9 or 10 months old when I lost mine, and I thought that was pretty young... but it felt right and I was in my second year of uni dating a guy I'd been with for 6 months or so, so I figured it was time.
Now I'm a scientist and I'm doing this big study on 10 000 people aged 20-30. I've got data on when they lost their virginity and because I was bored one day, I worked out the average age of losing it - by your age, only around 40 % of women have had sex and a little less for guys. So don't rush into anything just because you feel like everyone else has done it. I'm so glad my first encounter wasn't a drunken one and you should be too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): It's crazy if you think that you're too old to still be a virgin. True, people seem to be losing their virginity at younger ages these days, but to think that you've gotta lose yours by a certain time is wrong! The only rule about losing your virginity is that you should do it when you're ready and comfortable. Do you really want to lose your virginity while drunk and with whoever you're willing to "seize the chance" with? A lot of people would rather remember their first time fondly and hopefully with someone they like/love, who cares about them and will treat them right. You should aspire for that rather than random drunk sex!
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