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writes:Hey, I was just wondering what age did people lose their virginity and having lost it at that age do you wish you had been younger/older when it happened? I'm not thinking of having sex or anything quite yet, I'm just curious :)Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, jj1988 +, writes (26 March 2009):
I was 19 when i lost mine. I was glad I had waited but to be honest it wasn't really a big deal to me. I'm 21 now and I've still only ever had sex with 2 people, one of whom was the guy I lost my virginity to and was in love with.
My advice to anyone would be to wait until you find someone you love or at least have genuine feelings for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): I lost mine a few days after my 17th birthday and i don't regret it fot a second :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): I was... 17 and 4 months. Im glad I waited for him. It may sound young still to you but i have had a great many chaces in the past and im happy it was with him. i think the person you share that special moment with is very important. The only problem we had was him being so nervous about hurting me. He had lost his 2 years beforehand (he is 10 years older than me)
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 I was 16.
Don't regret it for a second :)
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reader, kissxmexagainx  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 when I was a little kid I was sexually abused.. a lot. I had been beaten and molested my whole childhood. Then at the age of 12 I was raped by someone I thought loved me. after that I ended up having sex with him because I didn't care anymore about virginity. I felt that I was ruined && there was no point. I also was extremely depressed and suicidal. I stayed with this guy who abused && raped me if I said no for a long time. thank god I got out when I did. unfortunately, I pretty much had sex with everyone after that. It was the only thing I knew. I was on drugs && became an alcoholic. I screwed up my life so bad.
now, I'm 18 and with an amazing guy. I've been sober for a year now and I'm pregnant with his baby. I love him so much && he loves me && doesn't care about my past. Now is the only thing that matters to him. I wish so much that I had gotten out of my situation before I willing had sex with him. I would have loved to lose my virginity to my boyfriend. He's amazingly sweet and caring, extremely skilled in bed [&& he was a virgin before me] and I can't wait until our son is born && we'll have our own family.
when the time comes, please let it be someone special. even if you have to wait a long time. it will be worth it.
love,
Emily.
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reader, Wonderfulsofar +, writes (3 March 2009):
I was 13,I wouldn't change the age,I was ready,I felt comfortable and connected with my boyfriend,it was a good experience.
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reader, Tomas +, writes (3 March 2009):
male, 23 yrs old. On the one hand, wish I had more experience earlier, but in part because the experiences I had later were so good.
On the other hand, I think if I had been sexually active younger, the experiences wouldn't have been nearly as good, and I might carry a few more regrets/demons than I do. So on balance, I'm pretty content.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): I was 25. I wasn't necessarily waiting for marriage - but I was waiting for someone special to me - and I have absolutely no regrets that it was him I lost it or that I took my own time (despite social pressures). Incidently - I did end up marrying this guy.
Just do what feels right for you - when it feels right.
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reader, 333 +, writes (3 March 2009):
I'm 15 and still a virgin. (:
I'm trying to save myself for marriage...or somebody really special..but its so hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I'm indifferent to whether I should have 'lost' it then or later. Sex to me is just another form of communication. If a relationship didn't work out, it didn't work out. I don't see women whom have lost their virginities as damaged goods. I see women as individuals and not what a book written by ancient superstitious men and women brand as 'sinful' or 'impure'. I also don't care much about how common social standards brand these women. I simply don't give an acorn, a rat's ass and half an eaten tuna nigiri about it.
I have 'better' things to regret like pushing the love of my life away or unable to fulfill further security for my family, than to worry about losing my 'virginity'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I was 30!! - I wanted to wait for the right person and he never came along so I shagged this guy that I thought I liked but didn't - so I regret losing it even at that late stage!
Now however, I'm in my late 30's and have met a lovely man who I wish I had met ten years earlier and lost my virginity to him instead!1
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I don't know if an answer from a guy is relevant to you or not, but in case it is ...
I was 16 and an idiot. I saw virginity as some sort of curse, and used the first opportunity to "get rid" of it.
To my mind it's less age than circumstances that matter. I was so incredibly in love with my first girlfriend, I thought losing our virginities together would have been simply grand. It didn't happen, which might be just as well, as I was quite devastated enough when we broke up.
My first time was rather sordid, and wouldn't have happened without alcohol. I regret it, but because of the circumstances more than the age.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 It was 3 months to the day of my 17th Birthday. I was married on Dec 16, so that was the reason. The man was my husband. We dated for a good while and then married.I got married so young because my Dad remarried and my Stepmom was jealous of me. I go the boot, because of a misunderstanding. She lied on me! Later, Thank God he found it out and left her because of what it did to my life.
I wish that things were different in my life at the time and I could have waited until I was at least a few years older. Life completely changes from the moment you become Deflowered. You become a WOMAN! There is NO turning back. Love youself enough to know that you don't have to be sexual involved to be loved, appreciated or wanted!
I look back now after 33 years and I realize that as much as I thought I was grown and matured I didn't really have a clue about life the way it has been revealed thru the years. Everything about my life was changed from that moment own. I feel in someways I lost a bit of the inside part of myself. My short lived marriage ended when he decided he didn't want this marriage anymore. I have nothing to give anyone else I thought! How damaged my my heart and mind was now that I was no longer innocent and pure.
My suggestion is that any young lady wait long enough to experience her life and the world on a greater degree before she ever decides to *Grow up so fast and loose the rest of what should have been precious youth! Look for alternatives in showing care and affections. Know that you are worthy of the best and not to be treated as just a sexual pawn in life's game. It's like a game in some ways you know? You learn as you go, daily and forevermore.
I believed that morally I should stay a virgin until married. I did reach that part of my life religiously and with much faith that I did the right thing! I will never believe anything different. After that time it became harder to keep myself proper and in control. It became an evil that can take your soul and leave you alone in despair.
The choice however it up to the person. Do choose well what you would do because it only happens truely ONCE IN A LIFETIME! From that point on it can't be undone and it will truely affect the rest of your life. Remaining a Virgin is quite a feat these days but it's STILL THE BEST WAY IN GOD'S EYES. LET HIS ANGELS SHADOW YOUR TIME SPENT WITH YOUR MATE AND UNTIL YOU ARE WED, HELP YOU TO KEEP YOURSELF PURE.
My best to you always,
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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Good luck and God bless those who live today. This world is in such a state that far too many believe that being a virgin is just downright awful. That you should just do it and not worry about the consquences. Indeed that's why we have so many unwanted pregnances, abandoned children and deaths of infants and children.
Please act responsibly and keep your Virtues. If you can't contain yourself and you choose to do otherwise, at least use precautions. Be safe, Be responsible and not Sorry!
Seek God's Will and you Can Find His Favor!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): was 24.lost it to my husband.Didn't think about it too much.Didn't find anyone else special enough to give my virginity to.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I was 16. The boy was lovely and I dont regret the person, but I sincerely regret not waiting longer. I wish I had been older.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I was 14 when i lost mine. It was on halloween and i have never regreted it.
I lost it to my boyfriend who i'm still with now :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): I lost mine on my 17th birthday back in August.
The first time was amazing, but the guy who I lost it to lost it to me too and wasnt very skilled and just didnt satisfy me.
I would've loved to have had someone who had known what they were doing properly.
I don't regret it. But he dumped me 4 months later! xD
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I was 15 when I lost mine, and I wish I had waited. Not necessarily because I thin I was too young, but more because the guy I lost it to was a jerk and really only wanted to take my virginity. I didn't like him more than a crush either, which is something else I've regretted. I wish I had lost mine to someone who at least really cared about me, and who I really cared about too.
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