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writes:Hey everybody. I'm a 13 year old girl and about two years ago I was in a horrible car accident that left my arms, legs, and almost everything in between covered in scars. I'm not very self conscious about them usually, however I was wondering if men react different to women who are covered in scars. Thanks. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, glassblower +, writes (22 October 2010):
 Hey there! Looks like we're in the same boat, I had issues when I was younger and as a result I have scars as well, perhaps in different places. In all honesty, I get stares when I go out in public while not covered, from men and women alike. As for men reacting differently...my boyfriend says he loves my scars because they make me unique. Your scars make you unique, sweetheart. Best of luck! xoxo glassblower
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): I have scars, yet not nearly as bad as you have described. I have my throat slit, and sometimes people bring it up. I think all people see scars and it makes them want to ask where did you get that. Every scar has a story.
My girlfriend Jenny, got into a very horrible accident and it sounds like you both have similar scars. She met Matt at around 20 years old and they have been married for 2 years now... so they have been together for at least 7 years now.
I know that just with my throat slit I am very self conscious about it, but I know that I have realized something over the years... being 27 now. When you first meet someone and they have a ugly mole, a scar on their chest, or even hair on their ears (my hubby LOL) it can turn you off, just reality... BUT when you get to know someone, and truly love them, you don't see flaws like that anymore. My husband has a discolored area on his face, I forget its even there. My breast are not saggy, but they are low (like my mom's) I guess what I am saying is that we all have flaws, some are more severe than others, people see them and make judgement one way or another, but true love will see past that... and its TRUE... PROMISE.
I hope what I said has helped you get a little insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): React differently? Truthfully, some men might. But a good man will realize you have had challenges in your life, that you are different, and he might take an interest in that. I went out the other night and had a drink at a bar. The bartender was a very pretty girl not much younger than me. She had a deep scar on her arm and a considerable amount of tissue missing...like a shark bite victim. I found myself becoming a bit attracted to her...wondering what had happened to her arm, who she was, what kind of life she lived, if this was her only job or if she did something else...honest interest in HER and not just her looks or how she might be as a lover. So if anything, my reaction was BETTER than it would be normally. But I tend to like to know the real side of people. Not all guys are like that. Many are VERY superficial.
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