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writes: I am very much in love with my best friend. I first started noticing back in October that I really did have feelings for him. To the outside observer it would appear that we were dating, but we weren't. We would go out to eat, to the movies, hang out at my place, go for walks in the park, and talk for hours on end. Finally in December I asked him what was going on with us. He said that he felt the same way too, but that he felt that it wasn't right. He even told me how many times he wanted to kiss me but didnt. After this conversation, nothing changed. he still flirted, and I flirted back (it's hard not to when that's what you want to do). In January he helped move me to college. Since then we have talked almost every day. At one point he even said "that's why I love you". He has never told that to me before. If he loves me, and I feel the same way, Why aren't we together? I'm so confused. I feel like I keep getting mixed signals from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): He doesn't love you THAT WAY or you would be together. Read He's Just not that into you. Best friends is the perfect foundation for a lasting love relationship and if he were in love he wouldn't be telling you it wasn't right. You are in danger of putting him under the microscope now and looking for evidence he feels the same and calling them mixed signals when he doesn't act according to your fantasy. HE DOESNT feel about you in a ROMANTIC way and doesn't want to use you for sex and break your heart. Someone WILL return your love and that person will be telling you how right you are for them.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 I think by it being wrong he means he doesn't want to jeopardize what you two have as "friends" and probably also the fact that you were moving to college, what a time to start a relationship!--but whether you act on it or not, you both know you're more than friends, or you feel more than platonically. I think this summer, if you're going back home, that if you feel you're a big girl (as in, aware of the possible consequences of the relationship/it changing/it ending) and that you want to take a leap of faith in him and in you as a couple, you should do that. your story warmed my heart, I don't think you should just sacrifice yourselves to what is proper but to what makes you happy.
if you need any support on long distance, i've been there and done that so you can PM me.
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