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writes:I left my husband of 30 years due to horrible verbal abuse and always being blamed for any thing that went wrong. I am having such a hard time finding any kind of support groups. I'm trying to take the high road in this seperation and not do anything that I will regret later. My grown sons are a big part of our seperation. My husband is always talking behind my back to my sons and their girl friends. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, unknown_unknowns +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Oh, dear-- verbal abuse is still abuse. It can be worse than physical abuse. It can be hard to find people who understand how much words really, really hurt. Your sons and their girlfriends HAVE to know that your ex is verbally abusive. They HAVE to know that he behaved like a bastard, and they HAVE to know that he made you suffer-- if they saw any part of your marriage, and if they hear him talk about you, they know the truth about him. I would wager they are proud of you for finally standing up to him, but don't know how to say it. Stay on the high road. Don't engage him. Distract yourself-- get a haircut, throw out a bunch of stuff you don't love or need anymore-- even little things like tea instead of coffee, or new soap. Not kidding-- these things help. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 January 2010):
 Stay on that high road, honey. You won't regret it. Your soon-to be-ex is showing his true colors and will be fooling nobody. If you remain the class act you will have the ultimate revenge on the S.O.B. You go girlfriend!
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