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writes:today is our first valentines and sadly its the worst valentines day ever till today. calls me 1 am this morning after he finished work and tells me ohh todays valentines day i forgot happy valentines day honey ,, "yeah u 2 babe" so i wake up in the morning he calls me and says you havent even sent me a sms for valentines! mind you i just woke up and honestly i was planing to sent him a text anyway he pissed me off, then he says ohhh what time we catching up today cause he has shows after 7pm 2night fire twirling and stuff till midnight..i said ill c u around 11. he hen tells me to give him a few hours so we can catch up around 1-30 and i cant belive he said this he told me he needs to buy me something and i was like what you havent planned before then dont worry i dont want anything and then his like nah nah i have something but theres one otehr thing i have to get done. so anyway its nearly 2 pm calls me and what do i hear his busy running late and eventually cant be bothered to come down to my area to see me mind you i live 15-20 mins away so then his like come to my shows tonight im thinking like what for spend another day like new years go from show to show and get ignored and feel depressed anyway so i said no i dont want to come tonight and i told him i wont be coming yesterday and the day before that . anyway his like i wanna c you tonight regardless if i see you now or not tonight i want to i said no anywayhe pissed me off then his like i cant be bothered arguing im gonna enjoy my night then i said stuff you i dont wanna see you and hung up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!So what kind of a Valentine's Day was that??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I've got a good 20 years on you, so let me clue you in something about men: they're not that big on Valentine's Day. If we don't remind them, they'll forget. Heck, some men even forget anniversaries and birthdays and those are way more personal to a couple than Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day is just something that we women get more worked up about than men do. And if he's generally not a romantic-flowers-and-candy kind of guy, he isn't going to suddenly become Don Juan. Not unless you make it clear that you want the big gestures of love on Valentine's Day. Which, if you're a loving couple anyway, isn't necessary.Also, men, God bless their little hearts, are simple creatures. If you say "don't get me anything" what they hear is "don't get me anything." You really can't be angry that your guy isn't a mind reader. We women do that sometimes, and its not fair. Next time just be straight out, tell him its approaching and what you want. If he screw up then, then you can be angry.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (14 February 2009):
it's just a commercial day! he shouldn't get all up himself because of how the day went.
everyday in a relationship should be like valentines. you should always communicate with eachother and do nice things. material things are nothing compared to making someone laugh and caring for someone.
valentines day is so over rated. it's just another day!
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (14 February 2009):
 Okay I can understand why you're annoyed... you don't get to see your boyfriend on valentines day. But you have to take part of the blame as well. You did refuse to see him tonight. He didn't make you say that.Men are never organised. So he got you a valentines present today, so what? At least he got you someting. I agree with satindesire, you need to tell him what you want.Why not ring him? say your sorry and enjoy the rest of the day? Go to his show thing later when it's almost finished and spend the rest of the night with him. Ignore everything that's happened so far and just pretend it never happened. Surely that would be better than waiting at a comp for people you don't know to tell you what to do. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): Well there is only a few hours left of valentines day. Tomorrow is St Siegfrieds day. (No idea what he did, except a circus act in Vegas) and it is a new day with a new dawn. I don't think he will improve. Be glad to be alive and find someone better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell its beeen 5 hours he hasnt called i guess is at his shows , like he only does it fridays and saturday nights sometimes sundays so couldnt he think of anything during the week seriously there are boyfriends who work all week 5 days a week or maybe more and they put more effort into spending time with their girl, seriously i thought maybe tonight something might happen like a supris or sumfin but i dont think so i think its all rubish,, yeah i dont deserve this i thik ive been there for him alot and enough is enough.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 February 2009):
Well you said a lot of things along the lines of "don't worry about it, don't get my anything" so he may not have been psychic enough to realise that you actually meant "PUT SOME DAMN EFFORT IN!!"
He was rubbish but give him a chance to make it up to you.
If he doesn't do something pretty romantic next time then you have to accept that he's either rubbish at remembering things like this and will mess up a lot, or you can split up with him and find someone a bit less useless.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): think it was rubbish - think he just wants you for sex. dump him and find someone better for you. who will spend good quality time with you. Live. if its any consolation I once made heart shaped toast and brought it to my GF in bed. she ate the toast and went to work. Sigh why did I bother.Hugs OS.X.
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