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writes:kay this is complicated. when i was 11 i got raped by a relative, n im now 17 n i think i have an std. i have discharge, weird smells, n other stuff that shouldnt happen does. im serious with my bf, once we didnt use anything, no protection. And im afraid that i might of gave him somethingn im afraid to ask my mom for a pap appoitment. if i do have somthing how do i explain that to my mom or bf? i never told anyone i was raped. im afraid i just dont kno what to do? im ashamed, and scared... im scared to ask for help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm clean...i gotta pap test a couple months ago. but thanks for all the help!
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reader, stdgirl +, writes (15 February 2009):
 You should talk with your BF and get tested asap!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): Go to a medical doctor and get tested, unless you don;t want to experience having children of your own. Untreated STDs may lead to sterilzation. Bottomline: Take care of your body. Today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): Hi Kay, lots of things here; the rape, the possible std, the un protected sex. I will try and cover them all.the rape - that's awful in so many ways. (hug) you are better than that and this person does not control you. He sunk low to have sex with you at that age. You have taken a step forward by telling us here that it happened and that is a strong step for you. The point of the message wasn't this though and I am not experienced enough to help clearly with this.the possible std - very easy answer - go get checked out. in the UK you just give a name (false normally) at an STD clinic, they take a swab (not fun if you are a boy) and then you get results a few days later. Go talk to your doctor - i presume your Mum doesn't need to know if you go to docs. The sooner you go the better and easier this will be to clear up. No sex until it is gone! the std may or may not be related to the rape, it could be picked up from the bf (sorry) so make sure you are protected always and he is checked out to. Ok lecture over...Having said all that - i would do this; Get your mum alone (or aunt or elder female freind) and say you need to talk and you are very scared. They will listen, You don't have to mention the rape. Just that you have this possible std. Your mums reaction will be better than you think - she will be angry for a very short while, but will think you at are least grown up enough to do something and not let it get worse (which in very bad STD cases is very bad).I have written this after joining but it might come through in a simlar way anonymously(sigh computers love them all)Big hug OS.x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): hi - There is a very obvious answer here and that is go checked out - most things can be cured easily with antibiotics of one sort or another. If you don't go then it will get worse. Lets face it your Mom would be really upset if it got very very bad. - in the UK at the std clinics you just give a false name and it isn't a problem - they take a swab (not fun if a male) a few days later you get the results and a doctor talks to you. if clear you never see them again.Please Please go see someone - go to your doctors on your own and talk to them. Or I don't know what in America there is as teen helpline.the rape thing - that's very bad (hug)- by not talking to people about it, you can see the scars it leaves. Here, because of what in rhyming slang we would call a 'banker' you are suffering more.Just realised i am lecturing in my first Post (sigh) anyway - if your mum loves you talk to her (or an aunt, or a good older female friend). tell her you need to talk to her about something serious and you are very scared - she will listen, maybe get angry for a short while then will help and that is the result we want. Big Hug OS.x.
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reader, hynrockstar2 +, writes (14 February 2009):
tell ur bf and ur mom what happened immediately!!!! dont want to screw up your bfs life as well. and also tell your parents that your relative raped you. It might not be an std, it could be yeast infection, but get tested anyway and take your bf with you.
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