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writes:I posted a question already about my boyfriend who was carrying condoms in his travel case and I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, play the waiting game and keep an eye on him. Well he was away at a corporate games weekend with his work and when he got back last night I decided to check his phone (something I have never done before as I dont like sneaking) but to my horror he had sent a very suggestive text message to a woman inviting her for "sex games" when he was there.I got the impression from the text that she is just someone "casual" as he was out of town. I sent the message to my phone with the intention of just sending it back to him and the woman today to let them know that I have caught them out but dont know if I should just dump him and get on with my life (I have been with him nearly two and a half years now) and not let him know that I read his text. Also should I ring the woman and ask her outright if she was with him at the weekend. My other fear is that maybe she is a prostitute that he calls on when he is away.
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (3 July 2007):
 This is a big problem. Regardless of how long you've been with him, he may still be cheating. Ask her outright and then confront him. People that have been together for over 10 years, a partner can still cheat and its over. Its just the trust issue, because the longer you stay with someone the more you grow to trust them. And it is alot more painful, never the less, if its confirmed. End it and try to move on babe.
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reader, love-him +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Hey babii!! Wow well i think you should certainly tell him youve caught him.. the cheating bastard!! honestly babe make sure u tell him and also if i was you i would ring her and say (calmly) do u know this man ( your boyfriends name ) and see where it goes.. mail me if u wanna talk x x x x
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reader, Shortacid  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 First off, you should have called him out on the condoms as soon as your found them. Unless he smuggles heroin, I don't see him needing them by himself.
Call the women, tell her what you found and such. She maybe completely unaware of his situation.
Allow the grapevine effect to happen and see how he reacts the next time he sees you. Its time for you to have a "relationship talk" anyways with this nonsense, so you might as well make him sweat it ahead of time.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (3 July 2007):
 I would let your guy know you've caught him out. The woman may think he's a single guy so may have no idea about you so be careful approaching her. But I would defnetly let your guy know you know about this time. As you have no proof about past times, if there were any apart from condoms in his case then just have a go about this time and ask him if there have been others.
I know you said there were condoms in his case but just incase I would get checked out for STIs as you never know. There doesn't seem to be any honesty at all coming from his side and that's a bit of a slap in the face for 2 and a half years.
I can't say whether you should walk away or not. I probably would myself but it depends if the guy stops what he's doing and you can trust him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): Hi darling.
Oh dear, this doesnt sound good, well its not good full stop.... trust is so important in a relationship but i see why you did this and you found what you were so wishing you hadnt... Talk with him he cant deny it, and it all depends sweetheart if you want to stay in this kind of situation... I myself would be none to happy but thats me, the phone would have been logged somewere it would have to be surgically removed..... This must be devistating for you, you have to talk and you then have to make a decition if you want to spend your time with a partner you cant trust, if he goes away quite often then its going to be on your mind all the time. I really feel for you hun, if you need a chat message me TAKE CARE OF YOU LOTS OF LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, becka4dale +, writes (3 July 2007):
 i think you should really speak to your boyfriend about this as it seems he isnt telling you the truth and you need to be honest with eachother in a relationship
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