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writes: I have a heavy feeling of anxiety and uncertainity about the future and it seems that i am in a never ending battle of conquering the future so as to feel secure, as the present embarasses me the way i am, it is like i am not being valued as i would like to in present so i try to establish control over my future and even act as God or predictor of future sometimes and my entire self-esteem is kind of on stake with this ability to predict future. If i am wrong, i get reduced to nothing and if i am right, i get admired like a someone from heaven. Having tried a few times to make people understand that i am not God, it seems they find it to their discomfort to treat me more as a human, as then their high expectations get reduced to nothing. Please advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): Do you mean that you have a certain ability to predict the future? Are you trying to impress people by doing so? Whatever the case I suggest not trying to base your self esteem in what others (even your parents) think about you. You know why? Because you will never be completely loved and accepted by everyone, and that happens to everybody in this world. I've learned this lesson a little late in life. I would've been happier if I would've believed in myself no matter what. You know what? You have to believe even in your mistakes. You have to think that you can't be a puppet of the circumstances because life is filled with ups and downs, with friends and enemies, with good days and bad days and with compliments and curses and you can't let them rule your life, because you can't control them, but you can control yourself. Accepting that you'll get your share of good things and bad things in life and believing that you already have the abilities to deal with them all is the first step on maturity.
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reader, stina  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 What? Sorry, I really don't understand what your problem is, so I don't know if this answer is going to help:
From what I gather (I think) you seem to let you and yourself down by not following through on goals you've set for yourself. Maybe you need to reorganize your priorities and set goals that are better suited for you in the amount of time that you give yourself. Then you can fulfill them and not take a knock to your self esteem. You'd also be able to keep your word to people if you set realistic goals for their needs, as well. If you have too much on your plate, tell whoever it is that you're too busy to help and refer them to someone else. Maybe try living day by day instead of in the future, as well.
Not sure if this helps, so maybe you could provide more details. (It would also help if you used more punctuation and less run-on sentences.)
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