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writes:please read my first entry [verification/log in code blocked]. it explains the background. I decided to take the advice I got and now I feel more confused.As I said in my last question, this guy is extremely shy. I have gone to two concerts with him and think he likes me by the way he looks at me but could be totally wrong with all the other signals he is giving me. The first concert I went to he was incredible! he got my favorite beer and looked out for me. The beer definetely loosened us up in terms of being comfortable around each other. The only thing that went badly wrong was at the end of the night when he asked me if I wanted to have more fun. I played the dumb card and asked what he meant by that and he ended up leaning over to kiss me...but I didn't want him to get the wrong idea that I was that type of girl so made sure to kiss him back and then changed the topic. I don't know if that was him being awkward or what. I have taken the initiative by texting to him how i couldn't wait to see concerts with him. I never got anything back. before the 2nd concert, i wanted to see if he truly wanted me to go or not. so i texted i get the feeling you dont want me to go so i dont want to intrude on you and your friend so im not going to go. he texted back idk why you would feel like that..it'll be fun. you would not be intruding. so i ended up going. then I texted him after the last concert that I wish i was all cuddled up in his comfortable bed like before and his hot self was the first thing i got to see in the morning......I thought that that would be very obvious that I liked him...instead of saying something cute back he said haha, im not a morning person. so i decided to take the initiative again and say well then again you always look hot not just in the am. I have even asked him to go to the lake with me..just me and him. his answer was that it would be more fun with more people. he doesn't like to go to a place too much because then it isn't special. he said its just one of things weird about him. so now, i feel like i have put myself out there in terms of telling him that i definetely like him but i am not getting anything back. does this shy guy not like me anymore? any suggestions on what I should do?[mod note to the Original Poster, please post the link to your first question on this thread, as your verification/log in code isn't a valid link]
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-need-help-understand-shy-guys-does-he.html
this is my original post guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): this was my originial post since you can't see the code in my questions.
1st post:
Shy guys are very confusing and frustrating. This guy at my work is around 26. He is so so shy his dad tries to set him up on dates and from what I have found out he only has had one girlfriend. One of my friends at work told him that I thought he was cute and he said it would be too weird since we work together.
I always have to be the one to go to his office to talk but once I initiate he is so chatty. I have to initiate text messages too..but he always responds.
we went to the river together and it was the best time! but he wouldnt even hold onto me when we were riding a jetski or sit next to me when we were eating lunch. He would just sit next to me. he gave me a huge huge and told me we would have to do it again.
but i have always been told...if a guy like you, he will make it happen. Do i need to back off? I don't know what to do anymore or if he even likes me or just if he just trying to be polite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): I would play the field, not the game. You are the one making the effort, is he? My advice is to give some space time away always make the heart fonder.. Tell him you like him if you do not get the anwser you want then space and find a male friend and see if he gets jelouis.. That will give you your answer..
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reader, goodwoman  +, writes (11 August 2009):
Don't play games - it just makes things more confusing. Just ask him. Tell him in plain language "I like you", "I would like to see more of you".....wait for his answer. By this I mean tell him how you feel and then wait for him to speak. And let him speak and you need to listen. You come across as needy and unsure of yourself, with absolutely no self-confidence. Do you like me? What the heck is he suppose to say? Think of it this way, put yourself in his place and some guy was doing this to you. You would probably act the same way. Stop the game playing and high school antics. And you put the guy on the spot with telling him you want to cuddle with him and see his hot self in the am. Girl, he's trying to be nice to you and not hurt your feelings. You seem to want an obvious answer, so just ask him point blank. You may not like what you hear. Be ready to let go and move on.
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