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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have known this guy for 25 odd years. I was best friends with his sister and our mums were good friends. A few years ago we got back in touch as he started working at the same place as me! Which was the second place of work that he has followed me to! I swear he was stalking me!! Anyway, ever since then we have talked on email everyday. Its not just me and him, there are 5 of us. Four girls and just him.We talk all day at work and we talk about everything especially sex. Me and him fight alot on there. He says things like "I would rather wank off with a grater and stick my balls in vinegar than touch you" I would say "well, I would rather shove a pineapple up my chooch and go horseriding" We are really mean to each other... once he said to me "why dont you go and stick your head in a bowl of piranhas" this banter happens at least once or twice a week and it goes on for ages while the other girls just laugh and I LOVE IT!! Its hilarious!! He is the funniest guy I know!! As insulting as his comments can be, I cant get offended because its that funny... When we get drunk we text each other too which is really funny! Im not attracted to him as such, he is still my old friends lil bro! Im pretty sure we used to bath togevs!!Anyway one nite we were out and I ended up bumping into him randomly at a club... We both didnt know either of us were gonna be there but we hung out all nite and basically ditched the people we were with. He was hammered, more so than me and kept saying, "can we go back to your place after" and I was none the wiser, I was like yup thats cool... Then he was standing next to me and he said "check your phone" so I did and he sent me a msg saying "Serious Question. Can I fuck you tonite? I flipped!!! I was like OMG!! WHAT!! NO!!!! WTF!!! and he said... 'But you said just earlier... We would be good together" I didnt actually say this... I said Him and another person would be good togevs... Dear lord!! So I was like "Oh you dont mean that!! You're just drunk!! and I hugged him and immediately changed the subject... but he looked upset and was a bit quiet after that... This was at the end of the nite and I didnt want the nite to end on an awkward note so I let him come back to my house as planned... We watched movies and then started to drift off to sleep and he started cuddling me and trying to make out with me... I dont know why at the time... But I allowed the kiss but firmly said there would be no sex as I didnt think of him like that and it was weird!!!! So he accepted that and so we just cuddled and had a few smooches and boy he was a good kisser!! Wooo... Anyway next day he sends me a text saying... Hey cnut (yes i know, he calls me a cnut haha) Thanks for not letting anything happen last nite, Would have made it weird. Sorry about that ;-l So I said no worries and left it at that... Emails on monday were fine... none of the email crew knew about it so we just acted normal. He rang me randomly a couple of weeks later on a weekend and I answered saying... What do you want??? And he said... I want you baby... and I was like WHAT?? Then he said he called the wrong person??? With the same name!!! Pfft!! Few weeks later, I get rip roaring drunk and text him to come over... he was over in 20 mins and he was sober and we ended up having sex.I dont remember anything!! and that upsets me the most that and the fact he was sober and would remember everything!! Kill me... Drunk sex and Sober sex are two completely different sports!! member him going down on me... then about 2 secs of the sex and then my next memory is him leaving!!!! WTF!! This upsets me!! Next day early in the morning I was soooo hungover and he sends me a text saying. Hey f*ckface, how you feeling? You score yourself a hangover or what? So I said... Yep, I feel like ratsh*t... and he goes... haha good! cuz I think I pulled a muscle and its not exactly in a spot I can stretch either!! ...WTF!!? Monday again at work... emails normal he was completely fine with me nothing changed... However I was freaking out, purely cuz I was sooo drunk and Im worried it wasnt good..If the sex was awesome and we were both either semi drunk/sober and we remember it... I would just leave it as a one time thing and never mention it again. So I decided that we had to do it again!! But thought I would leave that up to him... Next weekend... I get drunk again!! I sent him a message but this time it was on a SUnday nite at midnite...I know right!! idiot!! Next day I felt like such a fool...and regretted it sooo much, I dont remember what I said to him, I deleted the messages... I read his messages and he just basically said in them that he was sleeping and he had work tmw and that I was a weirdo haha...but I also sent him a facebook message saying ... we need to do it again!! Gosh... I have some seriously bad rage blackouts when Im drunk and this crazy person emerges!! But he knows all this as he knows everything about me!! Monday at work... I emailed him privately saying... Sorry!! I just had a strong urge to rape you hahaha... and I told him about the facebook message and was like the shame!! Haha.. then said I was glad it was only him!! and he wrote back saying.. haha man your messages last nite made NO SENSE whatsoever and his phone kept going off and he was like for fk sake!! Im trying to sleep god damn it!! and then he called me a nut case!! His responce made me feel heaps better.. but then for the next couple of days he was ignoring my emails in the group session... he replies to everyone elses comments but not mine!! And I had some good sh*t to say!! I even baited him with a comment I knew he would usually reply to with some witty remark... but nothing... when he would always reply to my messages... Have I ruined things? In my defence... He started it... I thought he liked me??
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (12 August 2009):
 well for a start i would cut back ondrinking if you cannot control yourself as this will only land you in trouble. second of all your laughing all this off but i see this means something to you so you need to get to meet him and talk about this and get it over with find were you stand and what needs to be done so you can move on with your friendship talking to him is the onyl way you are going to get your answers people on here can only guess. perhaps he seen it as a one time thing perhaps he wants more but not with someone who is drunk all the time.. talk to him get the answers you need keep us update aphex xx
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