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writes:I'm in a committed relationship and I've always been in faithful. I've always been a person who is against infidelity and never understood why anyone would do that. But lately I've been wanted to cheat, and i cant understand why. Help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): Complex issue, you may think you are "missing" something in life, which is common.
Reality is that you are going to have to figure out why.
Whatever you do, don't cheat, cheating is not the same as having multiple sexual partners, cheating is "cheating".
Read about infidelity on line and about the damage it does to everyone, particularly the person who does it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 June 2011):
 Is something missing in your relationship? Sex? Affection? Emotion? anything at all? Or is it perhaps the prospect of a thrill that may come with an affair that might tempt you? Understanding why someone would cheat leads you towards understanding why YOU would want to cheat. Merely being against it does nothing. Look at your relationship. Are you absolutely happy with the person you're with? Do you ever find that your relationship is a little boring, perhaps it isn't fulfilling your interests in a relationship. Anything at all that might lead you to look elsewhere.
Whatever the reason, why not try improving upon whatever aspects of your relationship you can and see what has left you feeling empty.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): Maybe its the intrigue, the danger, the fact that cheating is so naughty and taboo. It makes it feel erotic. But you just have to keep telling yourself that cheating, is called cheating because it is the wrong thing to do. If it is the excitement of it then maybe your boyfriend and you could role play, or spice up your love life in some other way.
Some might say that the reason you want to cheat is because something is lacking in the relationship, if that it the case work out what is missing, fix it, and if you cant fix it get out of the relationship because I highly doubt the feelings of infidelity your feeling with resolve themselves.
I think that if you ever really cheated on your partner you would lose respect for yourself because it is obviously a moral issue for you. I agree with remaining faithful so try to be the best person you can be and if that means finding someone new then so be it.
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