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writes: My fiance asked if he could play with my ipod at work (he likes this bird game and scrabble lol) I told him it was fine with me,he took it to work and then 5 hrs later He is saying "we need to talk" I texted him "why?" and he told me he found a half naked women in my pictures on my ipod,He got really pissed at me he thinks im Bi and he is very upset i have a picture of a someone else half naked on there I get what hes saying......but I had her on there because I was going to do this joke but I never got around to it(honest truth!). He came home today mad as hell and his broke down he was so mad he kinda took it out all on me,his manager told him he would be fired if he keeps trying to leave early to come home and see me sooner. he came home yelling at me today :/ he said "the house isnt clean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:| u could of done the damn dishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I told him I was very sick (I ended up in the hospital tonight fyi everyone) and he kept yelling at me...:/ he goes "babe can u warm up the pizza for me so i can fix the car?can u AT LEAST DO THAT?!" I forced myself off the couch and painfully did what he asked. He said sorrry later and said he was an asshole for doing that,hes never like this guys i just wanna know....should i forgive him?:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he doesnt scream at me ever,this is the first time. He did calmy ask me and then he came home all mad over work & his car n the picture n no HE DOES NOT WATCH PORN.ty
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 June 2011):
 This is bad.. what horrible behaviour! I am not sure, was this the only time it happened? Have you been together for long? How often does he have episodes like this?
I'd consider leaving him to be honest, because this is bad. He has no right in anything he said, he has no right to tell you what you can have on your phone or not. Like a half naked woman is a big deal, doesn't he watch porn and naked women all the time? It's a silly picture or a random woman, it's nothing at all. If he didn't like it he could have calmly asked you about it after work, and not react like a mad bull with rabies.
Then the complaining about the house, and needing you to warm up pizza for him... that's treating you like his submissive. How often does he do this? It shows a clear lack of respect for you, and you were sick on top of it. He should have been doing everything in his power to make YOU feel better, instead he does everything within his power to make himself feel better, including yelling at you!
I've had a boyfriend that would yell and scream over smaller things and take it all out on nothing and rampage and throw tantrums. And it's not worth it. Your life will be so much easier and stress free once you get this man out of your life, and let him deal with his issues on his own. His anger is HIS problem, and not yours. If he can't control it then he needs help, because you never deserved to get treated that way.
It takes more than a "Im sorry" to forgive this sort of behaviour. The only thing that can make it ok is if he NEVER does it again. One chance only. If he does it again... leave.
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