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writes: Anyone out there is having the same problem as mine?I'm terribly depressed dat i'm still single.Frankly i am really yearning to be in a relationship so much.Well,i'm still very young i know(i'm just a teenage girl),but my friends around me are involving themselves in relationship and yet i'm still stucked here.It is driving me crazy.Somehow i feel like i'm kind of unwanted thingy.I start to detest myself.I feel that I'm not beautiful at all,in fact i feel that i'm damn ugly.Things get even worse when i go out with my friends,having to know that how they celebrate their birthdays,anniversaries or valentine's day with their partners.And whether those special days are approaching,i am so depressed that i hope those days dont exist in my life.This feeling has indirectly rendered me into having low self-esteem and always think that i'm inferior compared to the others.Nowadays i tend to comparing myself to others from every aspect,and i always make conclusions that the others are better.Unconsciously,i keep convincing myself that i'm lousier compared to anyone else.I know that the reason that i'm single is that i havent met with the right guy.But feelings are getting so intense that i start to reckon that I'm alone or unwanted because I'm not as good as other girls.And if i were to be guys,i would choose other girls instead of picking me to be fall in love with.I know my thinkings are silly and ridiculous,but now i realise that i am anticipating that i will be unwanted till i'm old,worn-out and useless.Is it so hard to find someone to care about me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Sweety i've got de same problem as yours. But what i can i tell u is, try to ignore it and be petient, i know its not easy but trust me, its gonna help u.
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reader, MrBrightside90  +, writes (3 April 2009):
I found it funny that you mentioned; Why guys wont choose you to fall in love with.
First of all, We dont choose to fall in love, it just happens.
And like jezebele said, if you feel self assured, This will show on the outside too. Get a little Cocky, but dont over do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Hi i felt exactly the same as you...i was bullied when i was younger leaving me b low on self-esteem..I thot that i was ugly and felt so low...all my friends around me had steady boyfriends of about a year...i began to think something was wrong with me...until i met my most recent boyfriend..hes lovely....the main thing you can do is not rush...when the time comes could be 2mrw could b next week jus wait someone will come and hopefully it will be the guy of ur dreams
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reader, chezthered  +, writes (3 April 2009):
 Hi there! Right now it seems as though you need to work on yourself, and your self confidence.I doubt that you are ugly, you just have a low opinion of yourself. Tell yourself every day that you are not inferior to anybody else and that you are just as good as these other girls. Everyone has their own attributes and I bet you haven't noticed your own because you are so down at the moment. Speak with your friends and ask them what is good about you- bet you'll be pleasantly surprised at their answer. Think of something that you are good at, and build on this. All this will help build your confidence. Mr Right will come along when you least expect it. Good luck! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): If you are feeling down on yourself then that will show on the outside too. A guy will be more attracted to someone who is confident and self assured. You need to do some things for yourself to make yourself feel better about you! Get a new haircut/dye. Go get your nails done, buy some new make up. Whatever makes you feel pretty and pampered. And dont have the attitude that others are better than you! Set your sights on a guy that interests you and go for it! Best of luck.
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