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writes:Hi, I'm a freshman and I do a lot of volunteer work at the BGCA. If I have 120 registered hours at the club, I get a full credit toward my highschool transcript.I have this girlfriend, "Dana" and we're very happy. However, there's this girl who goes to the Boy's and Girl's club and she seems to be attracted to me.The feeling is not mutual."Michel" is in sixth grade and I honestly never even began to consider her to be somebody I'd date.She follows me around, requires my help exclusively with simple tasks, is very...physical (attempts to hug, hold, playfully push, grab, etc.), and hints at a relationship between us.I have been so uninterested in the proposition of us dating that I did not even realize this until yesterday.Is she attracted to me or just VERY friendly?If she is, I'm not sure how I could tell her to stop. I don't want her feelings hurt. She's a sweet girl, but its immoral and a bit disgusting for me to be romantically interested in her.For me, though. In saying that I don't mean to put down any existing relationships like that. I just couldn't do it myself is all.HelpI tried to mention Dana in our conversations, but she continues to behave the same. what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, jrns96 +, writes (20 December 2010):
jrns96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys. Rivi, you're absoluetly right. There's nothing dusgusting with her wanting my ass :). But I used that word to try to describe the extreme revulsion I feel at being in a relationship with a girl 3 years my junior. I'm 14, she's just turned 12.
And SexCounsellor thanks for the tips as well. I would thank anonymous there, but I'm not sure what to call her/him. :D Thanks anyway!
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reader, rivi +, writes (19 December 2010):
You should just tell her you are flattered by her attentions but really you are only interested in girls as old as you.
Maybe Dana could tactfully make the same point.
It will hurt her feelings tho so the trick is to be as gentle as possible but absolutely unambiguous.
Don't use words like disgusting - anyway what's disgusting about her wanting your ass ? Girls often like older boys than themselves as boys their age aren't as mature.
If you can possibly volunteer at some other location that would be a good solution. While she sees you she'll pine....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): Maybe she is just kind of playful and just needs someone to be around like a big brother..... but if she acts that way with others her age shes just friendly and loves to be around people.
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reader, Sex_counsellor  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 I presume that you are older than a girl in the 6th grade (12/13yrs) so therefore you need to explain that it is inappropriate for her to act that way around you. Put a bit of distance between the two of you and try and avoid close contact where possible. I would imagine that this is just a school girl crush which will in due course pass.
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