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writes: Is it normal not to find the act of sex enjoyable? It's nice for the first five seconds and then Im no longer in the mood. I know it's a "mental" thing but I cant even imagine anything while having sex. I really can't ....nothing makes me horny, and I'm not a naturally sexual person, I don't find it necessary to be. It might be because I'm not as attracted to my boyfriend? But I enjoy this relationship soo much...I let him have sex whenever he wants but only enjoy the foreplay part, not the actual act.Am I completely abnormal?
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reader, honest_human  +, writes (19 December 2010):
Possibilities1. He is selfish2. He is not that attractive (sex is completely different with a person you find amazingly attractive)3. His penis doesn't feel good inside you (not his or your fault)4. none of the above.
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reader, candy253  +, writes (19 December 2010):
lol you are not abnormal, foreplay is your thing! it's what gets you off! dont be ashamed girl, be proud you know what you turns you on. some women dont even know what turns them on!
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reader, rivi +, writes (19 December 2010):
I would think it's distinctly abnormal for a woman not to enjoy being penetrated by a boyfriend she really likes.
If you really can't get wet and excited for yr bf you need to either change the bf or seek medical / counselling advice.
You are missing out after all on a great experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010): It is normal for females to not be as "into" sex as males, but it is perhaps not the healthiest thing, especially if it makes you feel insecure or unhappy.
I wouldn't put pressure on yourself to "imagine" things during sex... it makes more sense to live in the moment and be comfortable enough with yourself to follow your physical instincts... imagination comes later, when you're "mixing things up".
Try letting your imagination wander when you are on your own and see if you enjoy the physical experience *then*... try letting your boyfriend know when you're together the things you'd prefer... what feels good and what doesn't... what you are comfortable with and aren't... what you are excited about and not... you don't have to do so verbally. Taking the reigns every now and then will let you explore your tastes, as your boyfriend can't necessarily Know first.
-Tante Vic
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