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writes:okay so I'm 26 now and at the time I must of been bout 11 to 12 Maybe almost 12 years old and I spent the night at a friend from schools house one night, it was the first and last time I slept over her house, I kinda remember drinken a little_ Maybe a 40 oz. of beer"Old English or maybe it was wine coolers, and I remember her mom being there and it was okay with her, I was thinken ur moms hella cool, you know I'm young, I'm in 5th/6th grade and thinkg it was cool, anyway it was My friend, her mom, her two older brothers and one of the brothers Girlfiends well all I really remember is that the oldest brother Gustavo had went out, he must of been like 17-20. So I was sleeping and woke up to her oldest brother Gustavo on top of me and I remember I was wearing these sweats with the draw string tied tighly in a knot and I can remember him desperately trying to get them off, he was gettin mad and I he smellt strong like alcohol, I think he was drun, he then grabbed my hand and put my hand on his thing and was making me stroke it up and down and I felt something wet, It was so grose I thought,I was so scared, afraid, didn't know what to do, wasent sure of what was really going on and I didn't want 2 scream or yell, I was a Virgin and I didn't know a whole lot bout sex, I definitely know I wasent ready, I didn't want to, I was totally robbed of my virginity, that fuckn bastard stole my innocence, anyways I kept telling him to please stop, stop, please.. then he put my hands behind my back, put / shuvved his thing inside of me , it hurt so much, I felt like I was being ripped or something, I remember feeling totally violated and dirty, I was so nervous, trembling and just really feeling weird, so If I didn't yell and didn't say anything about it was I not raped, would you call it raped?? Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 September 2010):
 Yes that was rape. With how old you were, being under the influence, lack of experience, and his size compared to yours, I don't see their being much else that you could have done. You were definitely not at fault for what happened, and your being afraid and confused is what I would expect from someone assaulted at that age. You hadn't yet developed techniques to ward off attackers, because at that age most don't put being attacked as part of their daily agenda, so it's not really focused on. He stole your virginity, but how are you doing now? How are you still being affected by this situation?
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (11 September 2010):
If you didn't consent and he forced himself on you, you were raped, which it sounds like is what happened here.
Hypothetically, if you DID consent (which you didn't), you were so young that what he did is considered statutory rape.
So either way, he's a jerk and you were raped.
Im so sorry you went through something so awful.
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