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writes:iv been with my other half for 7 years now we have a 2 year old but i feel unhappy my partner works and i stay home with our kid i do all house work, cook and take our child out every day but if i ask my partner to sleep in same room as out kid so i can have a decent night sleep i get told i dont work dont need to sleep, if im feeling ill its get up what you laying around for do something, where as if his back hurts a little he will do nothing other than lay on sofa and go toilet, he wants sex every few days but when he treats me like this i dont want to so its normally once a month. i make him dinner he will have a little bit and leave the rest i ask him what he would like instead "food" is the answer if i dont cook anything its "you've not done anything alday make me food"iv had enough iv tried talking to hime and telling him how i feel my responce is "give me more sex il be nicer"please please help mei dont want to breck up a family but i dont know what else i can do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy parents told me he would be no good but i wanted to prove them wrong we did get on like a house on fire i just dont know what happened. even his grandma and mum ask me why im with him still, but dont think i know the answer to that anymore
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (14 March 2011):
 "he is good with our child when he can be bothered" That isn't the most wonderful description of a father. From what I have read he sounds immature. He thinks because he works he can lounge about the house doing nothing? That is not justified, that is completely immature. The boy you fell in love with is still just that, a boy.
"give me more sex I'll be nicer"
"you've not done anything all day make me food"
"get up what you laying around for do something"
Just try and tell me that such things are not words from an immature little boy. Any relationship is a partnership and this does not sound like a partnership, it sounds like servitude. He is not the only one who has to work and take care of his home so he should either start acting like a man or you should just leave him because it sounds like you are on your own anyway. Find a job first and then decide whether or not he is really who you want in your life. You already doubt, that is why you have written here, seeking advice, an answer to this heartache and pain. Does he love you at all anymore?
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is good with our child when he can be bothered, but iv talked to him about helping me with housework and taking it in turns to cook but he wont coz he goes out to work, our child is 3 next month so he will be staring pre school and i WILL be looking for a job part time while he is there, as for sharing the same bed our son wakes up in the night and gets in bed with me (doesnt always settle, talks and jumps on bed, if i tell him off and put him back in his bed he will scream and wake up his dad) iv tried allsorts to get him to stay in his bed but nothing has worked and as its a one bed flat we have partner sleeps in lounge coz he has to get up for work the next morning.
he has been my one and only love from the age of 16 and still love him but hate what he does
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (12 March 2011):
7 years of this? I can only imagine what he is like as a father. Would you truly be breaking up a family or has this ogreish already working on that. He isn't treating his wife right. He isn't behaving like a man should, god only knows what your children could ever hope to learn about being decent people from this thing.
I hope that helps.
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reader, xtwinklex +, writes (11 March 2011):
Why does he have to sleep in the same room as your child? So you don't have to share with him? Or because you have someone share with your child?...
Is him sharing your bed really so disturbing to your sleep?
Also, if one of you does share with your child... why??
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (11 March 2011):
At age 2, your child should be old enough to leave at least a half day in child care or with a sitter. Then, you can go get a part-time job - maybe even at the child care where you have your child. You'll be around adults. Just being with a small child, doing housework, cleaning and cooking 24/7 can be boring as all heck! Then, suggest to your husband to help around the house. Let him cook every other night. Or, go out to eat now and then Save your energy for your sex life, as it is important to a marriage. Is boredom a bigger problem with you than being tired? I suggest you make some changes in your life and soon. Good luck!
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