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writes:Should I stay or go? I'm soon really soon to be 50. August 12th. I've been married to a man a was very much in love with for 8 years. He has always looked at porn said that what he does when I'm not home is none of my business. He stopped touching for 3 years becasue he said it quit working I am 9 years younger then him. Even if he quit working I feel he would of wanted me please and he would keep me happy but that didn't happen. He's in total control of our lives and makes all the plans of what we're doing and when we're doing it. His money my money his bills and my bills never combining our lives. His kids the best my kid the loser. Lost my Mother a year ago and finally decide to see who I am. Well I'm unhappy so just out talking to a friend I found out he loves me. WOW he's 70 years old it's a young 70 but is that to old? He's very very active. He is divorced and wants to make me happy whats to travel and wine and dine me. Buy me the biggest dimond I have ever saw. With a house in indiana and winter house in florida. Just what I want to do. He wants to share house work and our lives. He's a good lover and has mad me happy while we lived together for about 4 months. I know I can live with him. He's sorta insecure and I think he's infatuated with me. I'm a younger woman and I think he loves showing me off. Is he too old for me? Oh just so you know I do love him and love to be with him. It does bother me with what other people think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2011): where does your hb fit into this affair of yours??
whether he is 70 or 70 yrs young at heart, he should know better than to mess around with a married woman. for me the deal breaker is that u are still married.
as for all the luxuries........come on, u are only human, of course you want the best!!! who wouldn't
before you decide to go off with the 70 yr old, end your marriage.
btw: u are not a TROPHY to be displayed. yes maybe u feel good now, but being paraded in front of all the old farts is just plain degrading. (my opinion anyway)
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reader, itmeangel121 +, writes (2 August 2011):
itmeangel121 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone for all the answers I have recieved. Material things are not my number one thing about this guy. For me it's his love for me. His Wanting me. I have never been wanted so badly now is it his age or does he really want me? His son loves me. Wants his Father happy. Again thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): This 70 year old sounds too good to be true - I would love a man who spoilt me like that aged 20 or 70! But I am singleWhen we lose our parents, especially our mum, it does make you take a look at your life, realise we don't have forever and want to grab happiness.If your truly miserable with your husband, then for both your sakes, leave. Don't run to some man you hardly know, who has painted a picture of a dream life...live alone and get to know yourself and what you want. No harm dating the 70yr old but I wouldn't advise living with him immediately x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 I see two different issues here. One is whether the poster should divorce, and the other is whether she should go for the seventy-year old. One thing does not necessarily have to lead to the other.
I think you should never end a relationship unless it is bad in itself and you wouldn't keep it even if no one was around. So, if your relationship with your husband is that bad, end it.
As to being with the seventy year old man, I think there are as many reasons to believe he wants a nanny as there are to believe you have material concerns in mind. Sorry to be this blunt, but that's the way I am and I just don't function unless I say things this way. I'm not sure this new relationship would work when you were, say, 60 and he were 80, but stranger things do happen.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (1 August 2011):
 if you are not happy with your current man and you have feelings for the 70 year old and you are sure he is genuine about all the stuff he has promised you and how he tells you he feels about you then i think you should be with the 70 year old. if the only thing stopping you is the thought of what other people will think then i think this is silly to be honest. be with the one who makes you happy, the one you trust, the one who respects you more and treats you better
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): "WOW he's 70 years old it's a young 70 but is that to old?"Yeah, as they say in the newspaper "70 is the new....70"That's not what they say, but that is reality. Half of us are dead by 78 in the USA. Young 70 year old become older and only 25% of us live to be around 85.You are a younger woman, he is infatuated with you, does he have kids who will resent the "younger woman my age who is trying to fleece my dad".He loves showing you off. Are you going to be happy showing him off?You are in your 40's or 50-51 at the oldest.Don't get into a relationship to be something that someone shows off. What is he going to show off if you get breast cancer and have to have a double mastectomy?He's in the twilight of his life, you are in the mid life of yours.If you both love each other, who gives a rip, but relationships are hard, and the age difference is hard, and I know a lot of couples who have watched the older mate sicken and die and they are alone again.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (1 August 2011):
 If you're this unhappy in your marriage, then why have you taken so long to say so? Your husband deserves to know how you feel. Are you sure you really care about this other man or is he giving you things that your husband isn't? Whatever the reason, you need to figure it out. If you love your husband, then tell him how you feel and ask if he could change his ways. If he can't or doesn't want to and it really bothers you so much, then you should divorce because both of you deserve to be happy, even though you can't find happiness that will last when you have an affair. And do you really want to leave your husband for someone close to his deathbed? Sorry to be negative, but you could be together for only a year more, and then he's passed. Would you want to give up your marriage for being happy only that long? Tell your husband how you feel and if things can't be worked out, then you could give this guy a chance. But don't expect things to be perfect with him like they are now. It seems like you only care about materialistic things with him, and if that's the only thing on your mind, it definitely won't last.
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